<p>Hi everybody! I was recently admitted to Cornell and I was estatic! Except I know that people do party quite a bit there, and I don't really want to drink or do anything like that. I don't care if other people do it, but i don't want to do it. Am i going to have a hard time making friends and such at Cornell if i don't drink?
Thanks for reading </p>
<p>I’m sure you will be able to find a group to fit in with. </p>
<p>You will have 3k+ classmates. I am sure you will find your own tribe.</p>
<p>And don’t worry @heart79912464565 my D is not a partying type girl either. You aren’t the only new freshman who worries about this. </p>
<p>There is no such thing as a party at Cornell. There are get togethers at annexes where Freshman go to get drunk, watch people play drinking games, and then maybe are violated by upperclassmen, lol. </p>
<p>Perhaps that’s how <em>some</em> freshmen see the world. As a matter of fact, upperclassmen who are not in fraternities throw parties at their houses often. Generally for each other, and don’t even want unfamiliar freshmen.</p>
<p>OP you should not feel that you have to drink if you don’t want to. Worst case, if you feel self-conscious or just don’t want so many unwelcome offers, if you have a cup with something non-alcoholic in it nobody will probably know or care what’s in it.</p>
<p>On the other hand if you have problems being around when other people are drinking, that may be more of a challenge for you. Both at Cornell and in life afterwards. You would have to be somewhat picky about where you go, and find your group of like-minded people. But those people certainly exist there, you will not be alone.</p>
<p>^and don’t ever leave your cup unattended lest someone drop something in it when you are not looking…</p>
<p>I take it that’s a general caution,. given the times, and not anything specific to Cornell.
BTW Bill Cosby is not an alum. (we did have a serial killer though)</p>
<p>^yes @moneydad, just a general caution for all college age party-goers.</p>
<p>Serial killer, really? Ew</p>
<p>Thanks guys! I’m excited, but also nervous! I know that alot of people party alot, and honestly, I have no interest in doing that. Hopefully I’ll make some friends who don’t like to party either!</p>
<p>My D will be starting fall 15 also (CALS). She has no interest in drinking either. Maybe you can all start a club such as “Students having a blast sober” S.H.A.B.S…good luck to all and be strong in your convictions. I teach my children to never get involved with people that have addictions. </p>
<p>There is a group on campus called SOBER that does game nights and movie nights and stuff for those who like to drink. Personally, I don’t drink and I have a good group of friends who doesn’t drink either and we do many fun things that aren’t related to drinking (though it helps that we live in a program house). I haven’t once felt pressured to drink even though I have been with my friends at parties where there was alcohol. The key is to find people who feel the same way or who understand where you stand. I thought I would have a hard time with this but it is easier than you expect to find people who feel the same. I am a sophomore right now and haven’t been pressured to have a drink nor have I. </p>