<p>I'm a current resident at Fordham LC, and this weekend my mother came to stay with me. We did not sign her in, but at 1am two RAs woke us and demanded we do so. On Monday I got an angry email from the Resident Director, Craig Smith, who is now threatening to revoke my right to have guests, and is holding a "disciplinary hearing" because I didn't sign my MOTHER in! I love Fordham LC so much, I learn an incredible amount everyday, but some of the Residential Life staff have let the power go to their heads. Again, love Fordham, but they will not be respectful of your rights, and apparently enjoy being rude to your parents.</p>
<p>As a parent, I appreciate the security. Why didn’t you just sign her in? That’s the rules, parent or not.</p>
<p>OP, I have to agree about the security…it’s for your benefit and all the other residents as well whether it’s your mom or not. Hopefully your disciplinary hearing goes your way and you will not make THAT mistake again! </p>
<p>My S is a senior who lived in McMahon straight through for three years, summers included. He just got an apartment in June so you always have that option if you don’t want to deal with ResLife. I’d be surprised though if anyone makes it through the four years without so much as a fine! People make mistakes, they forget, and ResLife is ON it! You just grumble, pay the fine and move on! :)</p>
<p>The rules are the rules- you’re the one in the wrong here. Sorry! I hope your hearing goes your way!</p>
<p>Once again a common sense course is needed. </p>
<p>It would have been quicker to sign your mother in then to post this ridiculous posting.</p>
<p>During my kid’s tenure at Rose Hill, I visited often…mostly in freshmen year due to illness etc. I never stayed at any of her dorm’s: Queens, O’Hare, Walsh, or Campbell. I was often there late or sometimes arrived early and with very few exceptions (during the DAY when we were in and out often or my kid vouched for me) , signed into the building. I always got a hotel in Manhattan or northern NJ. I get the frustration and feeling like “its my MOTHER and therefore no security risk or boyfriend/girlfriend issue”, but the university would be faced with severe criticism and maybe a lawsuit if someone didnt sign in and something happened, particularly somone who wasnt invited. Its for your protection, and gives comfort to parents.</p>
<p>The RA’s and RD’s are held to a high standard and have a job to do. College kids are a handful on a good day. </p>
<p>Good luck at your hearing,but be remorseful and respectful. Next time your mom can get a hotel…and you can stay with her. :-)</p>
<p>I see no problem with the mom staying over as long as she is signed in. For some people a hotel in Manhattan could be a big expense which could make a visit difficult. I do think that the ResLife rules can be a bit much at times, but if you decide to dorm on campus, then you have agreed to follow the rules as they are set out.</p>
<p>Understand what would happen if you didn’t sign your mom in…people would notice and when they had a guest, would say “why do I have to sign in my (sister, brother, cousin, boyfriend, etc) when “Bchapll7” doesn’t sign in her mom, …if indeed she is her mom?” and they would be right. So now, because they let your mom in, others have to be let in. Things happen, things get stolen, broken, there is a fight…whatever… and no one takes responsibility as no one knows who was visiting…get the picture?</p>
<p>The rules are there to protect everyone. You could rent off LC campus, but do you have any idea what rent is for an apartment in that neighborhood? A heck of a lot more than what you are paying for McMahon.</p>
<p>Perhaps there was an incident at the time your mom visited…perhaps the RAs realized that any breech in rules could have bad results and went after you. Is signing in such a big deal that you would say don’t dorm here?</p>
<p>Just some things to consider as you post your rant and tell folks not to dorm at McMahon.</p>