Hello im 28 going back to school and will be willing in a dorm. Im a lesbian and I keep to myself. But Im nervious about having a 18 -21 living in a room with me. Let alone their parents having a problem with both my age and sexuality. what do i do? Do i just ignore it, or worn them up front? I mean im not there for anything other than a education, im no longer a kid and wont be goofing off.
It’s up to you about whether you want to tell them or not. It’s your sexuality and I don’t feel like you necessarily HAVE to tell them about it. If you choose to tell them, I guess just be aware of the possible consequences( if there will even be any). I feel like if you explain to them that you’re nervous about dorming,you don’t want your sexuality to make them feel uncomfortable, and that you won’t be goofing off/tend to keep to yourself they should be pretty understanding. But, honestly I would think/hope that your sexuality won’t be a big deal to them, but who knows. Anyways I hope that was helpful.
Thanks.
At your age most colleges will let you live off campus. You have more in common with grad students I’d want to live around students my age.
If I were you, I’d probably live off campus. Hell, as a 23 year old I’d rather not deal with 18-21 year olds in dorms lol.
However, if you do decide to live in a dorm and somebody has an issue with your sexuality you could always apply to change roommates.
Do they have dorms for non traditional student?. In your case non traditional is your age
At my school they let anyone who is 24 or older live in the graduate student dorms. Grad students tend to be more mature than undergrads so maybe you’d be more comfortable living in a dorm for non traditional students.
Will they let you have a single based on your maturity?
You would do well to explore all of suggestions offered by other posters: non-traditional student, off campus, etc.
There’s a reason upperclassmen aren’t paired with underclassmen: same planet, different worlds. In your case, it would be the age difference. An 18-year-old would probably annoy the hell out of you.
I’d suggest you find out if your college offers separate housing for non-traditional/older students. Many do, and it would be a more comfortable environment for you. It may also be easier to make friends, if you’re around other older students in your dorm, so well worth exploring.
In addition, some offer LGBTQ+ housing (which is open to anyone, not just LGBTQ students, but could be more inclusive, since people choose to live there.) You could check into this if you’re interested.
Another idea is to see if the school offers some sort of wellness housing, if you’re willing to not party in your dorm. 
But seriously, wellness housing often comes with a pledge not to party in the residence hall, and can attract older students because of that. It’s an idea for if your school doesn’t offer older student housing.
That said, you don’t have to tell your roommate your sexuality, unless and until you want to. You could wait to see how they are, whether or not you think they’d respond well, etc. Entirely up to you.
The sad thing is I’m just as poor as all the kids younger than me and couldn’t afford off campus living. And the school I am going to is more like a 2 year school. But thanks for all your comments
Understandable. If there are no single rooms, I wouldn’t worry about it. Be nice and go about your life. I wouldn’t say anything in advance. If the roommate or her parents object, she can move. Not your problem.