<p>I'm going off to college next year and I'll most likely be living in a dorm. So I was just wondering how dorms usually work if one has a boyfriend or girlfriend during college?</p>
<p>Do roommates usually go somewhere else for the night and give one privacy? Does this kind of stuff never happen at NU dorms? What are the rules regarding this kind of stuff? Do people follow them?</p>
<p>Well, technically you are not allowed to have anyone of the opposite sex in your room after a set time at night. You also may not have more than two times the occupancy of the room in your room at a time- i.e. if you have a single, you are supposed to have only two people in at a time, and in a double, 4; this is usually left up to your CA or RHC to monitor, but I know mine never minded. As for the roommate thing, I have no idea as Ive lived in a single for the past 2 years. :)</p>
<p>some... active... roommates make up a system for working things out/letting the roommate know if it's safe, kinda like the old cowboyhat on the knob thing---for some it's "DONT COME IN _____" written on the whiteboard, for others it's less conspicuous, like one of my friends who used to write a Price is Right symbol on certain nights...</p>
<p>as long as your roommate is cool about it, and you don't abuse the situation, you should be fine with a bf/gf staying over.</p>
<p>it really isn't much of a problem, i met my boyfriend the first week of college..and my roommate was pretty cool about it all, and so was his. i agree with the other posters just make up signal to put on your white board. also, certain days me and my bf planned to spend the night in each other's rooms so i would just tell my roommate in advance. oh btw, in my dorm at least, the ca's couldn't care less. good luck!</p>
<p>Well I know I would be mad paying X dollars for room and board and being kicked out entire nights (so if my future roommate suggests this the answer would be "no"), but I wouldn't mind if my roommate worked it out while I was in class, etc. ;).</p>
<p>well..if you're friends with your roommate and you both want to "sexile" eachother, it's not that big of a deal overnight if you have friends to sleep over with....it can be worked out..</p>
<p>Or, you could live in a single and not go through all this crap, lol....</p>
<p>Letting your roomy know is the best way to go, but there are the inevitable late night activites after the deuce, you may not have time to warn. during new student week i had a girl from loyola stay over and i aske dthe security moniters at bobb if i needed to check her in and when she needed to leave by. they laughed at me and said dont worry about it. an ra isnt going to get you in toruble for having sombody stay in your room.</p>
<p>“but there are the inevitable late night activites after the deuce”</p>
<p><em>Cringe</em></p>
<p>okay okay...well, no. I myself have been sexiled a number of times though, and I just crash in a friends room. I am just stating the facts, things like that (random hookups or somebody wanting the room alone) happen all the time...depending on where you live. Obviously its up to the person whether or not they want to leave. All Im sayin is that this is a possible scenario.</p>
<p>There's not really any rules for any of the dorms about having guests sleep over and whatnot, its just general courtesy to your roommate that you dont have your bf/gf essentially living in your room</p>
<p>you'll either have a signal or you will open up the door hear your roommate getting action, yelling for you to get out, and you will leave, at that point there's pretty much nothing you can do and this is generally how it occurs, i.e. without warning</p>
<p>if there's nowhere else, you just go crash in the lounge, it happens. my roommate would always just go to his frat and crash there when it happened. he didnt get ass so I never had to worry about it.</p>
<p>Of</a> course there are rules about overnight guests (pdf - E.6-7). How they're enforced is another question.</p>
<p>umm....so i guess this is kinda sorta related. There's a possibility that I'll have a guy friend of mine come up and visit sometime during the school year. You have to understand that we're just friends and nothing at all is going to be going on. We're very good friends and it really wouldn't be awk for me. If its ok with my roomate (assuming i eventually get one...long story) Is it ok to let him crash on the floor of my dorm room?</p>
<p>of course. it's like nan said....it's how they're enforced...and in my experience, they aren't enfored at all.</p>
<p>I think we can now end this thread. Nobody has ever gotten in trouble for having somebody over night...even if you couldnt have overnights, you think the ra is going to come in in the middle of the night and bust some kids, unless they would like to indulge in a threesome. The only rule that exists in the dorms is dont be an idiot. You drink have people ion your room, hell i stole a table from the bobb lounge for a beer png tourny in my room, as long as youre not that loud or stupid you will be fine. Oh and if any of you are an idiot and get written up, etc. My friends and i have ranged anywhere from 1 write up to like 6. You just have to waist some time at some meetings...you wont get kicked out of the dorm or anything like that.</p>
<p>hah....my friends and I stole the monitor desk on the mcculloch side....to play our own little version of beer pong...we returned it in good condition..hah</p>