Dorms: how did you choose who got which bed?

<p>How did you choose who got which bed in a double or triple dorm? Especially rooms with bunk beds. First to show up threw his/her stuff on one of the beds and claimed it, or flip a coin? Did you feel your process was fair? Just curious.</p>

<p>My roommate claimed her bed before I even got there without emailing me to ask me. We were both supposed to move in on the same day, but she moved in a day earlier. Luckily for her, I didnā€™t mind the higher captain-style bed formation (hers was closer to the ground while mine had the drawer placed underneath).</p>

<p>My roommate ambushed me. She just out and asked, ā€œCan I have (insert my desire bed space)?ā€ I meanā€¦I guess Iā€™m fine with it. What can you really do? Thereā€™s other things to fuss and fret over.</p>

<p>Iā€™m moving in earlier than them. But at least I grt to have everything settled before they come in.</p>

<p>If it is a double, you can ask if you can swap at the semester break if one bed/desk/closet etc. is preferable to both of you. I think it would be a gracious gesture for any roommate who moves in first to offer this to the other person when they arrive ā€“ while one roommate may not notice something about the side/space they chose before the other one arrives, it is nice to offer.</p>

<p>You could set a date, and move in a day earlier. Or propose a game of bloody knuckles. Or just flat out brawl for it</p>

<p>Just ask them. For me it was just a matter of which side of the room. He kindly reply after I asked.</p>

<p>My roommates and I didnā€™t communicate about it at all. It just so happened that I wanted the bottom bunk and got it, one of them wanted the top bunk and got it, and the other wanted the lofted bed and got it. We were talking about it once we were all there and realized that it worked out without us discussing it initiallyā€¦so in other words, me and my roommates lucked out.</p>

<p>My roomie and I want different sides. I want the left and she wants the right (from the perspective of walking into the room). So it just works out. We just have to hope her loft ends up being installed on her side so we donā€™t have to move it. Because moving that thing would not be fun. I think itā€™s funny because I asked her if I could have the left side and then two days later she forgot and asked me if she could have the right.</p>

<p>Get there first</p>

<p>My roommates know each other and I was talking with one when she said,ā€œme and roomie#2 have already decided the bedā€™s we want. Do you mind if I have the one near the window?ā€ And I honestly I think that was a bit rude of them and pretty unfair. I thought the fairest way would be first come first served (especially since I know I would get there earlier than them since my house is a 30 minute drive away and they live in different states altogether).
But itā€™s honestly not worth the trouble in the beginning. Iā€™m fine as long as I have a bed benched by a wall.</p>

<p>I was in a triple in a suite freshman year and whoever got there first, got their choice. I was second there and got the bottom bunk. There was a bunkbed and a single bed. </p>

<p>We didnā€™t discuss anything before-hand but for the girl that got the top bunk, we gave her most of the closet (if not all) because we felt bad. </p>

<p>If you think itā€™s going to be a big deal, talk about it first. I was glad I got the bottom bunk because even the single bed was too high up for me and I liked my little secluded corner.</p>

<p>Honestly the FAIREST way is to ask them in advance.
Second fairest is to wait for roomie to meet up and flip a coin (2 out of 3). ā† Only nice people do this one.</p>

<p>Dā€™s roommate doesnā€™t want the top bunkā€“she is scared of rolling out. D has slept in a loft bed pretty much her whole life, so she agreed to sleep on top. I donā€™t know how theyā€™ll do the other (they wonā€™t move in till the 18th)</p>

<p>Naueth, you think it would be most fair for you to do first come-first serve because you live the closest and would get there first? That doesnā€™t sound fair at all.</p>

<p>I say whoever gets there first if sleeping situations are pretty equal. However, in situations like top vs bottom bunk where someone might have real preference then it would be good to discuss/flip for it. I wouldnā€™t make a big deal just for the side of room. Many times you donā€™t know exactly how room is set up until you get there.</p>

<p>I simply got there first.</p>

<p>My roommate did specifically ask me to have the bed closest to the window before we moved in and I said sure but I told him I think the window is in the middle although I kind of knew it wasnā€™t. Anyways, I was kind of a jerk I guess because I moved into the side that is closest to the window. </p>

<p>In retrospect I feel a bit bad about it but he never said anything about it and I used that window sill quite a bit soā€¦</p>

<p>@Flor1dagator tee-heeļ¼ˆĪ¦Ļ‰Ī¦ļ¼‰
Even if that werenā€™t the case, I think not discussing it and getting it on arrival without complaints or a fuss is the easiest way to deal with it. You canā€™t blame a person for arriving first, second, or last. Regardless of whether you are there or not they have to pick an area and start unpacking and setting up.</p>

<p>Iā€™ve never seen my room but for some reason whenever I imagine myself in my future room I always imagine me having the bed on the left side and my roommate on the right side. I didnā€™t think much about it until one day I realized that if my roommate got to the room first and claim the left side I would be very upset because I canā€™t imagine being on the right side lol. So I just messaged her on Facebook asking if I could have the left side. She said yeah 'cause she doesnā€™t really care :D</p>

<p>Haha, it seems in my situation itā€™s going to be whoever gets there firstā€¦ which is me! By a week! Yeaaaa boiiiii.</p>

<p>'Cept we donā€™t know if we want to bunk or not yet.</p>

<p>I got there a day earlier and picked a side. They were different, but I thought equal and in some ways her side was better. Our room was L shaped and she had the whole bigger section to herself. Her bed was set up in the loft configuration, my parents helped me take my loft down when I moved in. I gave her the better closet. When she arrived I offered to rearrange however she wanted and/or help her unloft her bed, but she didnt change a thing. No idea if she really didnt care or if she just went with it.</p>

<p>Itā€™s hard to wait until both people are there. I had a huge dorm room and my stuff still took up the whole room before it was unpacked and put away, there wouldnā€™t have been room for both of us. Plus I was there a whole day earlier.</p>