My HFA HS senior is really looking to college as a new beginning. She’s never had close friends and honestly she is not the easiest person to be friends with. In thinking about dorms, she’s decided that she wants a roommate so that she will have one person she knows. I think this is a mistake unless she starts more actively using the school fb pages/apps to find someone she’s really compatible with. Even then I’m not sure. I worry that she’s seeing her potential roomie as an “instant friend” which is often not the case. Her older sis (college senior) even made the case by describing her own roommate history – no horror stories, but minor to middling annoyances and no friendships made.
I haven’t really pushed the issue yet, but now that she’s down to deciding which college (all meaningful decisions are in), I need to decide how much of a stand (if any) to take. I’m glad she’s willing to take risks and I don’t want to push decisions on her, but I also want her to have as positive a first year experience as possible.
I’d love to hear what other ASD or similar kids have done and how it’s turned out. For that matter any general advice regarding the first year for ASD kids would be great.