<p>Arbg may be right. Or, it may be the boyfriend is an alien from outer space. Not that arby guesses are far-fetched, but that I feel it only fair for me to answer the Op’s question based on the info she gave us(as I said back in post 6).
The op asked about the fairness of parents that had promised a free 4 yr education for all 4 kids, but now that one has been accepted ED, the parents are reneging because that 3rd child is a girl.
Clearly, if the info provided isn’t complete or accurate, then the advice gleaned is skewed.</p>