<p>Fallgirl, count yourself lucky. Shoes basically only look cute on me, never elegant - short, wide feet. Would love to have narrow feet. I think you need them to pull off a flat.</p>
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<p>Here are skinny jeans in off-white gray that look much better āin personā than in this picture: [Burberry</a> WASHED EFFECT SKINNY JEANS - Pants & Skirts](<a href=āBurberry | Official Website & Storeā>Burberry | Official Website & Store)</p>
<p>Iāve never seen any other jeans like these. They would fit the bill perfectly, IMO, with blue shoes and a cute top. It is on sale at all major departments storesā¦ if you can justify paying $150 for a pair of jeans AND can wear this brand (because it is designed for people with relatively flat butts).</p>
<p>Iām no expert when it comes to wedding attire (paging Gourmetmom!), but Iād pick a dress that is not white just to be on the safe side. However, if it is a fitted, just above the knee kind of dress that can be accessorized with a belt and/or a shawl, it could be OK, especially if worn with some nice āpop of colorā shoes.</p>
<p>Did you see those platform sandals in the Burberry jean photo? Thatās a broken neck waiting to happen!</p>
<p>As to the white dress to the wedding, it would definitely be safer not to, but if your heartās set on it, as long as itās not a bridal dress ācompetitorā i.e. strapless, beaded, lacey, chiffon-ey, sequined, covered buttons, corset-like, you get the idea. Yours sounds like a nice choice for a casual summery garden-type party. Colourful funky jewellery sounds decidedly un-bridal enough for me.</p>
<p>BB - normally I would never wear white ājust to be on the safe side.ā The dress, however, is exactly what you described. I actually bought it while I was with my DD at the Limited of all places:
[Cocktail</a> Party Dresses for Women: Cocktail Party Dresses | V Neck Sheath Dress | The Limited](<a href=āhttp://www.thelimited.com/detail/v-neck-sheath-dress/3274788]Cocktailā>http://www.thelimited.com/detail/v-neck-sheath-dress/3274788)</p>
<p>My daughter told me to try it on and it fits just perfectly. </p>
<p>I have hot pink jewelry or turquoise jewelry that looks fun with this - so summery, so casual. The wedding is outside (as I mentioned) at this beautiful farm B&B with a barbeque to follow. I really donāt know how dressy or casual everyone will be - I havenāt talked to the MOG and this dress seems to straddle both. </p>
<p>OK - last detail. The dress does fit perfectly, shows off good arms, shoulders. Ex-beau of thirty, oops forty years ago will be there. 'Nuff said. I am heading downstairs to our exercise room to do a couple of reps with dumbbells just in case :)</p>
<p>Whether or not one is āallowedā to wear white to someone elseās wedding, thereās a possibility that the bride or the mother of the bride will feel that one is not allowed. And will not like it. So I recommend not risking it, unless you know the bride and MOB well.</p>
<p>This ^^^^ from a 50 year old woman who wears a bikini?</p>
<p>Alum, honestly - just teasing you!</p>
<p>Hahahaha! Social rules are complex, and contextual, no? I am a 50-year old Californian who only wears a bikini in Hawaii where no one I know can see me:). I assume I am only going to weddings of people I know, in social settings where I have agreed to share the contextā¦If you know these people and this wedding - have at it!</p>
<p>Rules, when it comes to clothes, are rarely really absolute. Itās about the signals they send in context. I say wear all the white shoes you want, when you want to, as long as the aesthetic is good. But again, Iām in California, not the South.</p>
<p>I know you are right - and hope you understand that said comeback was delivered in Dorothyās sotto voce to Blanche in the spirit of our beloved Golden Girls.</p>
<p>OK. Back to the closet or a dress shop. </p>
<p>Honestly, this would be so much easier to decide if the wedding were being held in a church. Dressing for a traditional wedding is easy. Outdoors you have shoe issues, unstable weather, etc. So when I tried this dress on I had no thought of wearing it to this affair, I was buying to have an inexpensive dress for travel. </p>
<p>We know the groom very well. A son of longtime friends, we taught him for four years in Sunday School, but following college graduation he worked for my DH for a year and a half. We have met his bride to be several times and coincidentally I met the brideās mom long before these two even started dating. The invitations were very casual and humorous. </p>
<p>Whatever I wear, we will have a wonderful time. They are truly the nicest young couple and we couldnāt be happier for them or for their families. Truly, my attire is of no importance.</p>
<p>My ears were ringing! </p>
<p>The white dress in question is beautiful and classic, but I would not wear it to a wedding. Itās dressy enough to compete with the wedding partyās attire, and if you look especially fabulous in it (as I know you will), it may look like you are, at the very least, insensitive. Why risk bad feelings? Save it for another special occasion.</p>
<p>Hereās a fashion challenge. Anyone want to take a stab at it? A summertime rodeo out west that is also a business gathering where one is meeting people for the first time! Any suggestions?</p>
<p>On the white dress, I would also avoid. If it had patterns or was non bridal enough (a beige or champagne colored suit, for example - you see a lot of those at big city weddings ) it might be less risky.</p>
<p>On bikinis over 40 - I kind of put them in the same category as short shorts, very short skirts and very low cut or tight outfits - to me these things look " young" rather than youthful. Not all two piece suits are in that category, IMO and certainly anything goes in some situations (the backyard, a tropical resort where everyone is doing it and you donāt know anyone).</p>
<p>I would certainly invest in a pair of cowboy boots if you donāt already have them. It will show that youāre in the spirit of the event and you are ready for fun. Pair them with jeans - any pair that fits you well. Add a nice top and youāll look great.</p>
<p>The boots will communicate that you are appropriate and ready for a rodeo. I wouldnāt worry about head to toe western wear - all the fringe and so forth, especially if itās not your normal style.</p>
<p>I was originally thinking of something along those lines, but average high temp is 87 the time of year in question. Would one wear boots in that kind of weather, regardless? Itās true - fringe, sequins and cowboy hats are not my usual look.</p>
<p>workin progress- I would not wear a white dress to someone elseās wedding.</p>
<p>I do love that dress from the Limited, though.</p>
<p>is the rodeo in eastern wa/or?
it will be dusty- but I donāt know what else you would wear to a rodeo.
I wouldnāt wear fringe or gussy stuff though- although a hat would be recommended- just for shade purposes- doesnt have to be a cowboy hat ( unless you are in ellensburg)</p>
<p>I have relatives in Texas, and cowboys boots are de rigueur at a rodeo, whatever the temperature. Besides, the ground will probably be dusty and dirty - theyāll keep your feet clean and protected. Again, Iād wear my usual nice jeans/nice top and buy a pair of fun - possibly even colorful or decorated - cowboy boots.</p>
<p>Nordstrom has a surprisingly large selection of cowboy boots. Many are on sale and the prices are not bad. Hereās a nice, classic boot:</p>
<p>[Ariat</a> āShadaā boot - - Nordstrom](<a href=āhttp://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3096369?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=keywordsearch&keyword=cowboy+boots&origin=searchresults]Ariatā>http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3096369?Category=&Search=True&SearchType=keywordsearch&keyword=cowboy+boots&origin=searchresults)</p>
<p>Thanks, Gourmet and EK thatās just what I wanted to know. Those boots are very cute!</p>
<p>Anyone have any experience with this brand? Iāve found two dresses online that Iām tempted to order but canāt find any reviews and am not sure how the sizing runs. Here they are:</p>
<p>[Fred</a> Perry Dungaree Shirt Dress at Zappos.com](<a href=āFred perry dungaree shirt dress deep navy + FREE SHIPPING | Zappos.comā>Fred perry dungaree shirt dress deep navy + FREE SHIPPING | Zappos.com)</p>
<p>[Fred</a> Perry Bustier Dress at Zappos.com](<a href=āFred perry bustier dress black fred + FREE SHIPPING | Zappos.comā>Fred perry bustier dress black + FREE SHIPPING | Zappos.com)</p>
<p>Oh yes. You can wear cowboy boots no matter the temperature. In the High Sierras, where my family used to on riding vacations at a family-run ranch, everyone wore boots all the time. In 80 degree heat at noon, in 50 degree cool nights, everywhere. I agree with the G-momās caution, wear with with jeans (they call them boot leg for a reason) and a regular top. No other Western gear except maybe a good cowboy hat. Although I have seen more tractor caps on riders these days:).</p>
<p>This winter I felt the pull of cowboy boots, but resisted. My old ones, that I wore to ride in, were orange and brown and ugly as sin. The new ones would be brown and turquoise, or black and gray, maybe.</p>
<p>And worknprogress, yes, not to worry, I laughed out loud.</p>
<p>Ariat boots are THE most comfortable. WildChild wears them all the time- they are his regular work and school shoes.</p>
<p>I thought about this thread today as I shopped on my trip to Charlottesville. H and I went to J Crew and Gap. I tried on a few things that I found I had to vote āNoā on because they just werenāt right for my age. Just Did Not Work. Also, in our discussion about bikinis. I tried on a Tyr (athletic brand) workout bikini at the sporting goods store. These are NOT the same as the ones I own. The bottoms on mine are a high cut leg but the waist of the briefs is a little below my naval. THESE things today were VERY skimpy on the bottom- not even shouting distance of my naval. I felt like a sausage, and I am at a good weight. I guess they are made for 15 year olds now.<br>
Did get a print sweater at J Crew and some shorts at Gap and some work cropped trousers.</p>