<p>How long have you been hearing this from him? I sometimes find that with my own DS, that things blow over after a short period of time. Could this be possible in your case, or is this something he has been thinking and talking about for quite a while?</p>
<p>Other random thought - since he hasn't done thorough research, is there the possibility that he will not actually take action on these plans? Because, if so, you could watch and wait; see if he takes the path of adjusting better to/accepting more where he is. </p>
<p>I certainly understand how difficult it is to watch our kids struggle. Especially the boys who don't talk, don't share, get defensive when we want to know just enough to help them. It sounds like professional/school counseling/guidance of some sort would be ideal, but I know that it would probably be very difficult to get my own S to consider it if in the same situation.</p>