<p>^^ Not quite sure what you are saying. What I am saying about my kid is that due to some rather severe consequences he has already faced (non-alcohol related), he is quite paranoid (rightfully so) about drinking and driving. He goes to great lengths to avoid that particular offense. Unfortunately, I DO know quite a bit about what my kid has done!</p>
<p>I’m saying that I think people are being ridiculously judgemental about other people’s kids and that they have a self-righteous attitude which includes believing other people DON’T know what thier kids are doing while they DO know. It makes no sense to me.</p>
<p>I wasn’t refering to you. I have a feeling you’re pretty clear on what your kid is and isn’t doing.</p>
<p>In these perilous times, your next door neighbor is into kiddie porn, your politician is caught playing footsie in an airport bathroom, your priest has been sued for child molestation, your favorite sports hero with a rare squeaky clean image turns out to be a whoring so-and-so.</p>
<p>How can anyone know for sure about anyone other than himself? </p>
<p>I really think that my kid was not into alcohol while in high school. I believe she isn’t into the drinking culture at her college. But do I know for sure? Nope. Just keeping the lines of communication open, fingers crossed and eyes on the alert.</p>
<p>^^^^^ yep, as usual ellemenope said it better than I did. ;)</p>
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<p>Yes, for better or worse (usually, worse). My kid has always been a risk-taker. Fortunately, as he got older (and consequences got more severe) he learned to make some better decisions. He really is concerned enough about DUI to be inquiring about where to live in his post-college city (which is a car-required city) to avoid having to drive home after nights out on the town.<br>
He’s seen with other students what DUI can do to your record and your law school applications. Right now 3 classmates have been arrested for aggravated assault- all seniors- at least one with a NYC finance job all lined up for after graduation. I bet their parents wouldn’t had figured their offspring would beat the cr*p out of someone.</p>
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<p>I’m sort of confused. Can you find a post where a parent on here claimed his/her child was perfect and insinuated that they knew everything their own offspring did?</p>
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<p>Another option would be to cut down significantly on alcohol consumption.</p>
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And looking a bit more outwardly than “me me me,” what it does to someone’s family when you take one of their loved ones’ lives with your irresponsible (and illegal) behavior.</p>
<p>Give it a rest ^^ I sincerely sense and don’t think this is a healthy thread for you to be reading and I mean that in truly the nicest way possible.</p>
<p>your son got a DUI and your biggest concern is whether this will affect his chances of getting into college or not?</p>
<p>i know you started this thread to receive advice… but it sounds like there are some other things that need to be “solved” aside from if and how you’re going to communicate a DUI to universities.</p>
<p>and on to the advice, i personally believe you should report it to the colleges as soon as possible - withholding of information (whether it be test scores or a DUI) can have serious consequences; and if your son is accepted and they find out that this was withheld then the acceptance will be rescinded (i can guarantee that with 99% confidence).</p>
<p>No gc414…the OP needs to read the language in each of the college applications and if the OP still doesn’t understand the OP needs to talk to an attorney. Most of the applications I’ve seen specifically say “convicted”…the OP’s son has been “charged” but again an attorney can answer the question best…but the OPs son has not been “convicted”. This is not a case of withholding information at this point. There is a time and place for everything.</p>
<p>I’m a child & adolescent psychatrist, and I have followed this thread with great interest. The OP has made it quite clear exactly what advice he/she is seeking. There have been numerous “editorials” and suggestions not related to the OP’s specific questions. It’s easy to be judgemental and to give unsolicited advice without knowing all of the facts about a given situation. My advice to the OP would be to borrow money if necessary, get a good attorney, determine exactly what your legal obligations and options are in this situation, and to clearly understand the consequences to your son of whatever decision(s) gets made. If you have other questions or would like some advice in other areas related to this, feel free to ask. Good luck.</p>
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Huh? I’m just pointing out that overconsumption of alcohol is a choice, not something you have to plan your life around. Also, there are greater implications to DUI than not getting into law school, although the poster was correct–good law schools aren’t very tolerant of spotty records. They have their choice of extremely excellent candidates who have good control of their personal conduct.</p>
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<p>Isn’t that interesting! The most drinking I’ve ever been around was at my top 5 law school! From what I hear, law school hasn’t changed much. A lot of the young associates I’ve met lately have been admitted to the bar after disclosing traffic tickets and other offenses. </p>
<p>Being above the legal limit for DUI does not equate to over-consumption of alcohol. A young person going out is very likely to consume enough alcohol that it is smart to not drive. Yep- it’s a choice- and if you want to make the choice to drink, it’s pretty smart to figure out the transportation. Same with older people, for that matter.</p>
<p>I agree with Clarkalum and momof3boys. There are many factors that go into answering the op’s question. She didn’t ask for a lecture on morality, she asked for guidance on what to do with her s’s college applications.</p>