<p>You are selected under the Early Decision in an institution to which Applied under the ED plan, and are given full tuition grant and loan opporunities.</p>
<p>Now, you think that other "Big" schools might also accept you.</p>
<p>Can you pay the deposit slip and still not attend a school to which you got accepted under Early Decision, and attend another school to which you applied under the Regular Decision? (You pay the deposit slip for the guarantee that you will have a place to study, but you are willing to loose the money if you are accepted from a better institution-- is that possible?)</p>
<p>Is there any way you can ask for an extension of the time that you are given from the ED university to confirm that you are coming (so that you get the time to review all the decisions from all the universities that you applied to under RD)?</p>
<p>Please help me with all of these. I am really stuck.</p>
<p>If you were accepted Early Decision (vs early action), you were to withdraw all your other applications. The above is true that if you dink over one school like that you could very well be out of luck come fall. Not to mention... what the heck ever happened to the integrity of one's word, which is essentially what early decision is all about?</p>
<p>There is no way you could even get decisions from RD schools. In addition to the fact that you are required to withdraw other applications immediately upon ED acceptance, colleges circulate lists of those they've accepted ED to peer schools.</p>
<p>You don't notify that you are coming, it's assumed since you signed a contract. In fact the college that my DS got into ED never required a deposit.</p>
<p>You'd probably be caught by at least one college before RD decisions come out.</p>
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<p>Oops. That's probably because I know nothing about it. But I'll take a guess.</p>
<p>Suffice to say, if you asked for an extension, they will need to know why. "Because I'm waiting for a better offer" is the only honest answer. That will reveal that you never canceled all apps after ED acceptance. They would probably revoke your acceptance. </p>
<p>If you lie about needing an extension, then you've jerked them around twice: not withdrawing other apps, and a dishonest extension request. Nice. </p>
<p>The answer is easy: You were accepted ED (and get free tuition, too!) Keep your word. You said you would enroll. So, go! </p>
<p>Lol... its not me who is in this predicament, its my cousin. </p>
<p>She is so confused!! I told her the same thing. But she is a little shaky about it. Anyways, thanks for all the comments. I guess she has not fully been fully aware of the gravity of the situation.</p>
<p>It's a big coincidence then that you and your cousin got into ED schools last week? And since you were wait listed at Brown last year, I can understand that you're probably wondering now if you should have held out for something higher ranked than Washington and Lee.</p>
<p>My guess is that applying to a less selective school made good sense to you when you did so to assure a place at a US school this year. And it really is human nature to always want more.</p>
<p>But ED is the first contract many young people sign, and contracts need to be well considered because they are serious business. You made the bet and you deal with the consequences. I don't think W & L will let you get away with going to another US college.</p>
<p>Not to mention that you then post this on a public forum. Kids who just got rejected ED at W & L read these posts. I can just see the email.....dear W & L, the international rapper dawg you just accepted is about to back out of the deal, can I have his spot? P.S. give Brown a call, I bet that's where he's heading but you can probably find his entire list in the archives of College Confidential!</p>
<p>Okay, before anyone else comes here and turns on the switch, let me make this fact clear.</p>
<p>I logged in using my cousin's account and made this thread. All the previous threads were made by my cousin, except this one.</p>
<p>That is why I always used "you" whenever I wrote about the situation. Consider the situation and all that. Please read the main post.</p>
<p>I hope this clears out the confusion. My cousin is in a bigger predicament that most of you can imagine. Family matters have come up, and everything at home is not well. </p>
<p>I have heard CC to be a friendly place, and thought it would be nice to get people's reviews. I just wanted to help, and now if this puts my cousin in such a situation, I have nothing to say. I am sure that hmom5 and everyone else understand it. </p>
<p>Thanks for the PM, but I'm still not following. Whether it's you or your cousin, isn't the situation the same? She posts of being wait listed at Brown last year as you say those were her posts. This year after the disappointment of last year she selects a less selective school because she wants a spot at a college. Her plan works, she gets into W & L with generous aid. But she's still not happy, she wants a, in your terms, bigger school. How does it being your cousin with family problems make any of this better?</p>
<p>Clearly, you are not getting it hmom5. She is not unhappy, it is just the peer pressure, and about the family situation, it has nothing to do with the collge decision. Our grandmother is extremely sick and is now in the hospital. Happy now? I believe I do not need to say anything more about the family.</p>
<p>By the way, just for the record, as fas as I am concerned, she did not apply to Brown under ED last year, and I do not know whether she has applied to Brown or not this year. </p>
<p>She is young, and she is bound to have confusion. I think we can allow her that. You are a mother, of all people, you should know better.</p>
<p>I will be happy if you can stop being so skeptical about a misunderstanding such as this.Thank you.</p>
<p>First, I am very sorry to hear your grandmother is ill and I hope she has a speedy recovery. Yet I don't see how this impacts the college situation.</p>
<p>I am a mother as you say, and I have counseled my kids to understand what their word means.</p>
<p>If I am understanding your last post correctly, you are saying that peer pressure is influencing your cousin to hold out for a better school. In what possible way is this acceptable? If she's smart enough to have been wait listed at Brown, surely she is smart enough to have thought through the decision to apply ED. If indeed peer pressure is to only go to an ivy, I'm sure she understood that before applying.</p>
<p>It just sound like she wants her cake and to eat it too. Certainly not unusual, but not the mark of a young adult who understands commitment.</p>
<p>One more thing, I believe everyone makes mistakes and that they should be given a chance to rectify it. This issue that I have stated was just a thought when she spoke to me about it. I wanted to give her the best possible advice, that is why I wanted all of your opinion. Like I said earlier, may be she is not fully aware of the gravity of the situation. I am sure once I tell her everything, she will understand. I have seen her go through a lot in the last year, and instead of making things hard, I believe we all should support her in making the correct decision. </p>
<p>And I feel pity for those candidates who will email an instution and ruin another candidate's future based just on the information of a thread. I do not think our students are as bad as that.</p>
<p>A decision like this takes a lot of thought. I hope you all will pray for my cousin and my family so that everything works out fine.</p>
<p>The family situation does not impact the college situation, but it does obscure her mind and effects the course of logical thought, doesn't it? She is very close to our grandmother, and is having a hard time dealing with everything.</p>
<p>ED applications must be signed by parents (guardian), student, and I believe also the GC. It's a legally binding contract. I'm sure that all involved thoroughly read over the specifics of the contract before signing. Because this person was offered a free ride to their ED school, I can't see any legal way to get around the binding agreement. Usually, the only way to get out of it is for financial reasons. This argument goes out of the window because of the offer of free ride.</p>
<p>I think the only "way" she could get out of her ED contract (risky) is to tell W&L about her ailing grandmother, and say she wants to postpone college for a year. In the meanwhile, she can apply to her other schools and be accetped if she is lucky and no one finds out about her ED debacle. I think this is down right unethical, but if you were looking for an answer, that is what I would do. In addition, this required her to either postpone her matriculation to W&L by 1 year, or possibly remove her application completely depending on their policy.</p>
<p>as a practical exercise, that ^^ would be impossible, since, even if you could postpone college for a year, in order to apply to others, you need letters of rec from teachers and your GC -- I dont see them doing that in this situation. Also, the GC will hound you or your cousin, to withdraw from other colleges, since their signature is on the line, and conversely their and the school's reputation with these colleges. No GC will mess up a reputation for one student.
Morally and ethically, even asking such a question is repugnant.
Surely everyone is entitled to make mistakes, but hey, you do pay for your mistakes. Let this be the biggest mistake in your life -- a free ride in a great college...</p>