My daughter is a freshman in Southern California. We live in the Wash DC area. She has adjusted very well, it is a good academic fit for her. It is a Catholic school, but she is not particularly religious despite going to Catholic school K-12. She did not set out to go to a Catholic university but it just ended up that way.
I don’t know necessarily what is drawing you to Gonzaga so can’t say whether you could find something similar on the East Coast. FWIW, most of the schools my daughter applied to were East Coast schools - she only applied to two on the West Coast. She did not want to stay very close to home as she was ready for a change so that meant our state flagship and another Catholic/Jesuit university (the most affordable!) were low on her list . Her top choice school was in NY but in the end, didn’t get enough merit aid to make it affordable. In April of her senior year, she was still torn about whether she wanted to go to the West Coast, but went for a “shadow” day and decided halfway through the day that she was ready to accept her spot in the freshman class as she felt it was a great fit for her.
She has three roommates, one who is an Engineering major from NY and the other two are from Northern CA. The NY roommate did not go home for Thanksgiving, but went up to L.A. with a school friend for the break. Our dd did fly home - we agreed this year in case she was feeling a little homesick her first year. I also bought her Thanksgiving ticket in August as soon as I knew her course schedule, b/f the lowest fares sold out. Funny, during move-in weekend, we met some parents from Seattle and somehow got to talking about flying. Their tickets from Seattle to Southern CA were more expensive than our tickets from the East Coast.
In terms of airfare, I sort of figured we’d plan for $1000 in airfare each year, but that should be lower if she does not come home the next few years for Thanksgiving. We had planned on using Southwest, which has direct flights from our area. However, I discovered that Alaska Air has the cheapest flights from BWI, our closest airport. Her flight home for Thanksgiving was less than $350RT and that was for direct flights each way. And the nice thing is that I can buy her tickets one segment at a time. For example, her flight home for Christmas was $240 but I did not buy her return b/c I was not sure when she needed to go back. Alaska then offered a Cyber Monday fare sale with flights for $99. I’m not sure where you are on the East Coast, but one of Alaska’s hubs is Seattle so if your home airport is serviced by Alaska, you could find pretty reasonable fares. I also got her signed up for a frequent flyer account.
@ninakatarina I’ll go with your dh on the road trip LOL. Dh and I spent three weeks on a cross country road trip back in our late 20s when we were engaged. I’ve since always wanted to do it with our kids but none of them seem interested. We did not drive our dd to her West Coast school to move in. It was easy enough to make use of the Bed Bath & Beyond Pack and Hold (you make a list of what you want at your local store, they pull them from shelves at the store nearest the college and hold them until you arrive - you don’t pay until you pick up and can remove anything you no longer want). We also picked up things at Target and IKEA near her school. For the most part with a few exceptions, she mostly just brought her clothes from home.
@Duchesslt ,if you are interested in Jesuit schools similar to Gonzaga in size that also offer engineering, you might consider Loyola University in Baltimore if you want to stay East Coast. They offer great merit aid. Dh and I went with dd for the admitted students day and were very impressed. I would have been happy to see my dd there as it checked many boxes, among them - she plans to major in IR so great being close to DC, plus it gave the most merit aid. Alas, it was too close to home for her, and with 8 of her h.s. classmates, including two of her good friends. going there, she was ready to go somewhere where she didn’t really know anyone.