<p>OP,</p>
<p>Your D sounds amazing: only a rising sophomore, and already scoring at SAT 2150 range with GPA 4.0. Plus passionate interest in Ballet. I don’t know how I could possibly think of a way to “improve” her qualification. When you have a kid that good, my instinct would be, let it be. When you try to tinker too much with what is naturally wonderful, perhaps the results may not be much better, while the “tinkering” may take the luster of the natural joy and spark from the original. Suppose she does get into Yale instead of another school within top 10-15 school, how much difference would it really make in the long run? After all, she will surely get in a top school. We are not doing Yale vs, community college comparison.</p>
<p>My S1 is starting college this fall.</p>
<p>He had DISMAL EC on the application packages. He spent first two years of HS doing nothing but playing computer games, and last two years teaching himself economics and international finance by reading tons of advanced materials - his passion. The “self studying” was nothing that could be verified by any institutional awards or recognition when he was applying to colleges, though it paid off big time because he won a first place award in a Wall Street firm sponsored competition in May that led to a paid summer internship this summer at the sponsoring firm. In his HS graduation luncheon, the school “acknowledged” all the achievement and accomplishments like awards, etc, and he is about the only one who did not get any. I joked that it takes a special talent to avoid so many balls being thrown in your direction. (his HS is an extremely selective and competitive public magnet school, so these 60+ kids manage to bring home incredible national awards, etc)</p>
<p>He was soundly rejected by HYP’s, but he did get into a university on a USNWR top 10 list. This is a school with a myth that they care more about essays and other things than scores and stats. I don’t see how that could have applied to S1. As I mentioned above, he has dismal ECs, but he had perfect SAT scores, and very good grades (not top though) from HS rated to be one of the top 5 public schools in the nation. I strongly believe that in his case, it’s the scores that got him in. He did have an interesting essay where he said he is the happiest kid in school since nobody put any pressure on him in his entire life and how happy he found economics/finances as his passion - but come on, colleges are picking candidates on the happiness measure. </p>
<p>What I found interesting is what happened after all the admission decisions came out. Many of S’s friends from HS were extremely focused for years building college resumes with all the right ECs, and yes they got into very good schools. However, they are essentially taking the summer off - I guess they got burned out. On the other hand, S never really applied himself to build a model resume - from a traditional point of view, you could say he was VASTLY under performing considering his potential. He did what gave him pleasure all throughout his HS - practically hedonistic - an ultimate epicurean. </p>
<p>Yet, this summer, he started his internship the Monday after he graduated from HS, and he is working 7 AM to 7 PM including commuting time. He is still working after all the other interns finished their “tour of duty”, and he is the youngest intern, since the other interns are college rising juniors and seniors. Obviously he is doing very well since he already got two investment proposals worth well over $20M he made to the senior executives approved and in the process of being implemented. The senior executives at the firm introduced him to the board members and are trying to convince him to come back next summer (he would rather diversify by working in another firm if possible). What was really rewarding to watch is how much enthusiasm, dedication, and passion he is bringing to this internship project. He says, this is better than any computer game he ever played, and better than most of the parties he has been to. He is also maturing and getting savvy with the organizational behavior and office politics leaps and bounds. </p>
<p>Looking back, I wonder if the ultimate outcome would have been better if we pressured him to “live up to his potential” in the college admission game. Mom of one of his friends even gently chided me that I was sort of neglectful by not “guiding and encouraging” my son to be “better prepared” for the college admission game. BUT… Suppose he made it to Harvard with such “tinkering”, would he have been better prepared for his long term prospect? Would he have such unvarnished, sheer joy in doing what truly interests him? Would he have a clear sense that the path he will be following is entirely his own, and nobody else’s from the beginning to the end? I don’t know. But, I am very happy to see the joy he experiences being a complete owner and master of his own path. He is brimming with all the things he plans to do at college to further his goals and feed his passion in international finance. He is already planning where to reach out to and who to talk to so that he is perfectly positioned to snatch the best possible internship next summer. This is the same kid who did nothing but playing computer games during the first two years of HS (it was his passion then, so he attacked this with the same maddening passion to the exclusion of almost everything else).</p>
<p>My son’s example is just one data point, and I am sure there are a lot of counter points and examples. I am just sharing this so that we can have collectively fuller data points and examples. </p>
<p>S2 is not like his brother in terms of the ability to get perfect score in any kind of exam by simply being there. He is a solid 3.6 GPA kind of kid with an SAT 2000 as a target aspiration. Yet, he is like his brother in terms of passion for things that which really fire him up: all things military. He wants to go to college on an ROTC scholarship. He has a clear passion that he is following with unmatched zeal. He is not doing much else at all. I am letting him be. So, he won’t get into top 20 schools, but I believe he will be the best officer he can be and he will bring dedication, passion, and discipline to what he chose to do since it’s all his, and nobody else’s. One does not know between these two kids, who will be more successful in their own chosen field: I don’t believe the school diploma has the ultimate say over who gets ahead faster and further. For college admission, I am better prepared with S2 since I am more experienced also. But, my role is limited to helping S2 better position himself given what he chose to engage and helping him manage the admission game better, but I am not going to tinker with the basic material of who he is and what he chooses to do.</p>
<p>I joke that I am raising organic free range chickens. They may look scrawny compared to the other chickens, but I like what I see.</p>