<p>This year I was very excited to be accepted to one of my top choice colleges, a very highly regarded university. Everyone who knows me well knows how hard I worked to get in and how excited I am, and many people share my excitement. Today I wore a shirt from that particular university, perhaps just because I am incredibley excited to be there next year. Someone stopped me in the hall and commented that I shouldn't "brag" about my college accptance... meanwhile, I had not been saying anything showy- all I did was wear my college shirt. My response was basically, "Other people wear shirts from their colleges: Purdue, Marquette, UT, University of Wisconsin, etc. Are they bragging? Why am I so terrible for wearing MY college's t-shirt?" They responded by saying that I had a good point, and they said that I was in the right to wear whatever I pleased. But it left me thinking about how outrageous it was that me wearing a t-shirt from a highly selective college could be construed as bragging! Many other people have responded with hostility, and they have not even applied to schools like this particular one. I was not being insensitive (no one from my school got rejected/deferred from this school) and I was not putting down other schools, so I feel like expressing my pride in my future college is perfectly acceptable. I will not hide in shame for being happy with my college, and I will enjoy it as much as I'm entitled to by my hard work. </p>
<p>i agree, i feel like the same would happen at my school, i think it's just the type of people at your school who are jealous. I personally wouldn't wear the shirt because of what happened to you, but I don't think you shouldn't wear the shirt. Be proud!</p>
<p>I think we can assume all those people are just jealous. As long as you don't wear the shirt everyday and talk about your college constantly you're not in the wrong. At my school, there are tons of people who wear William and Mary stuff and they never get any flack, and I wouldn't expect them to.</p>
<p>Your post really interested. At my school, it's be odd to be in a class with less than two or three kids wearing hoodies from Ivies, Stanford, MIT, etc. I've actually noticed that most of my school's most brilliant and studious kids are rarely seen cruising the hallways in Harvard gear. I don't mean to sound bitter, but we'll see who gets the last laugh...</p>
<p>it's just school pride so i think it is fine any day... i probably will wear my high school sweatshirt for a long time lol because it is COMFY</p>
<p>the only bad experience i had with this happened this fall. it was ED/SCEA/EA, etc time (:D) and both my friend and i applied to extremely prestigious schools. on the same weekend, i got rejected and she got accepted. what sweatshirt did she wear to school on monday? the one from the school i got rejected from. thanks.</p>
<p>Of course I'd be bitter if someone wore a hoodie with my SCEA school emblazoned across the front the day after I've been deferred, but that would be my own problem, not the wearer's. ;)</p>
<p>@volleysnap:
"what sweatshirt did she wear to school on monday? the one from the school i got rejected from. thanks."</p>
<p>Ouch. I'd like, so totally not speak to her for the rest of the week! <em>hair flip</em> Haha I would be quietly steaming, more like. Hope she wasn't too in your face. =)</p>
<p>lol i don't think she did it intentionally. she is UBER smart (aka average CC type) and sometimes just isn't the best on social situations lol, but that is something i can forgive her for
i do think she made the conscious decision to not brag about where she got into. when she got a perfect SAT and when she won some prestigious science awards we had to DRAG it out of her. so i guess she would agree with the whole "it's bragging thing" lol?? not sure.
haha JTKay i like the <em>hair flip</em> i'll have to try it next time and see if it makes me feel any better...</p>
<p>this thread made me think of next week... we have college t-shirt day for our sort of spring spirit week so everyone wears their t shirts then. on that day i don't think anyone would argue that it is bragging</p>
<p>My D didn't wear her college sweatshirt to school until pretty much everyone had a place to go</p>
<p>She knew others COULDN"T apply early for various reasons, some got rejected early and were hurting, </p>
<p>And it doesn't hurt to show consideration of the stress and disappointment, etc that others may be feeling</p>
<p>You have your school, congrats, but but know that others aren't feeling so lucky, and it doesn't have anything to do with rank of school, or prestige or anything, it has to do with having some feelings for others </p>
<p>Do you think that jsut because people didn't apply to your school that they don't have disappointments, frustration, anger, fears?</p>
<p>If you think others are seeing you as arrogant, is that what you want, no matter how proud you are</p>
<p>If others are commenting, that is something you might want to think about</p>
<p>A classy person can be proud while at the same time showing care for others, and realizing not everyone is feeling all peachy</p>
<p>I think college tshirt week is really cruel...</p>
<p>what if people haven't been accepted yet? what if there are things in their lives and they don't have a college shirt</p>
<p>wearing college shirts on an official day in HS is just thoughtless, imo</p>
<p>And I can tell you this, if my Ds school had one, she wouldn't participate...her pride isn't worth rubbing other people's nose in it and publically reminding them they weren't so lucky</p>
<p>I sorta agree with the person. When a person wears an alternating sweatshirt/shirt with their university's name on it, it gets on my nerves. Especially when they come up to me and talk down to me about how my #1 is not half as good as their place. Seriously, there's pompous..and then there's that. I'm sure you're not like that. But, realize that, if you haven't gotten into a college yet and you ask others about it, they might get annoyed. I hate talking about colleges to ANYONE other than my close friends. I hate the look people give me.</p>
<p>is it cruel though? it isn't necessarily "wear the t-shirt of the place you are going!" it's wear whatever college-themed apparel you like/inherited from a sibling/bought while driving through campus this past summer i know people who wear yale sweatshirts even though they aren't even thinking of applying. they don't expect anyone to believe that either. and since most people don't know yet, it can be just your aspirations. i'm planning on wearing my columbia tee this year. last year i wore iowa state. the year before i wore a stanford sweatshirt. i didn't feel any different any of the years. i guess i can't tell how people perceived me differently. </p>
<p>i respect people who don't get big-headed after being accepted somewhere prestigious. but coming from someone who was rejected SCEA, i still believe they deserve the chance to wear their t. as asdfjkl1 mentioned, people can be ridiculous and i agree that you can go too far. there is a balance though</p>
<p>I wear my NU sweatshirt occasionally. I don't see it as bragging, since no one applied ED from my HS (not so sure about RD though...) and I don't tend to talk about NU incessantly. One of my friends just commented about how jealous she was that I was done with college admissions in general... that's all. Plus, tons of people wear college sweatshirts, whether they actually got in or not. I think that people are offended by you, simply because your school is somewhat superior to theirs... Ignore them. If they want to complain about you wearing your college sweatshirt, then they should complain about everyone else who is wearing theirs too.</p>
<p>That's odd. I don't see how it could be bragging, unless they were jealous and you had recently gotten in, so the shirt just sort of prolonged your "glory."</p>
<p>Plenty of students where I live wear shirts of colleges they don't even go to (or even know about) -- USC, UCLA, Cal Poly, etc. and nobody really cares, as far as I've seen.</p>
<p>If it comes across as bragging, well, then that is how people see it...bragging and such is all about perception, and if you come across as braggy, and if someone calls you on it...then you need to look at how you are acting, etc...you may not THINK you are acting snooty, but if others see you that way, take a second look- do you want them to see you that way?</p>
<p>And it is all in the timing...your pride and ego should not take precedent over others feelings</p>
<p>IF no one else is bothering anyone because of their shirts, but the OP is....that reflects on the OP who may be acting in such a way to set people off...something to consider</p>
<p>"Many other people have responded with hostility, and they have not even applied to schools like this particular one"</p>
<p>hmmmm....wonder why people aren't all gushy over the OPs acceptance, his school is like, you know, better....and if I see that in his post, then who wants to be others see it in the demeanor</p>
<p>You deserved it. You worked hard for 4+ years, so why should you have to hide your success. </p>
<p>If i get into any of my top choices, I am going to wear my university sweater, t-shirt, hat, and hat every day to school. Not because i want to show off, but because thats the school i am going to attend. This shouldn't affect other people. But no matter what, there will always be jealous people.</p>
<p>the string references in #6 is pretty good.</p>
<p>From reading that string I think the rule for college t-shirts is something like this. Wearing college stuff from the school I am attending or any school ranked lower is OK and shows school spirit ... however anyone from a school ranked higher than my school who wears college gear is a jerk who is only wearing the cloths to rub their school in other's faces.</p>
<p>"I think college tshirt week is really cruel...</p>
<p>what if people haven't been accepted yet? what if there are things in their lives and they don't have a college shirt?</p>
<p>wearing college shirts on an official day in HS is just thoughtless, imo"</p>
<p>I like the idea. I think it would encourage the nonseniors to start planning ahead for college. I think it's good to allow students to stand out for something that's academic instead of just allowing students to stand out for things like sports.</p>
<p>When I was in high school, the only thing that students got to stand out for in terms of their dress was that the cheerleaders and varsity and jv sports players got to wear their uniforms on spirit rally days. </p>
<p>I think that students -- even poor ones -- who manage to get into college would find a way to get a T-shirt. I've noticed that even the poorest students manage to get attire to wear to prom.</p>
<p>In fact, I suspect that the college T-shirt week would particularly be attractive to students who are first generation college.</p>