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I'd say a college name is more than a brand name. A college is part of your life, somewhere where you spend four years of your life. A major part of our lives- especially at this age.
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<p>But the OP doesn't go to this school. He has been accepted to attend, but as yet hasn't contributed anything to the reputation and prestige of the school.</p>
<p>Uh, for the last time... I'm not hurting feelings- no none from my school applied EA to this particular school. Just me. No deferrees or rejected students go to my school... they all apply rolling admissions. Please take note.</p>
<p>I find it interesting that being excited about going to college (I'm the first in my family to do so, btw, so it's not like I'm some rich shoo-in) can be classified as "not classy". Rock on, Ellsworth Toohey.</p>
<p>I'm perfectly fine with people wearing t or sweatshirts to show where they get in. It's when you wear Harvard the first day, Yale the next, then Stanford, then Princeton, then MIT, and every other top 20 school shirt consecutively that I wonder....</p>
<p>I don't think wearing a shirt should matter. If this school that you are going to is so great, then you deserve to wear the shirt considering all the hard work you put in to get there. Whenever I would see people wearing shirts with better schools than me, I would just think "more power to them, they earned it."</p>
<p>that was a ridiculous coaching analogy, and completely irrelevant. haha</p>
<p>citygirlsmom: Im curious how you reject specifically with the thinking of those who disagree with you (you obviously have a strong view on this)? I feel like you continue to restate things that you simply 'know' to be true.</p>
<p>Also, I think 'class' is a very dicey word; for instance I believe that Bill Belichick has a very special type of class. Was that a direct jab at the Patriots?</p>
<p>Given the situation, you can do 2 things:</p>
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<li><p>other people's opinions don't matter to you, so you ignore them (wear the shirt)</p></li>
<li><p>other people's opinions matter, and you make decisions based on them (don't wear the shirt)</p></li>
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<p>those are your two choices. You decide which one you want. Should they be angry? No, but they are, so that's what you have to deal with.</p>
<p>if the biggest problem in your life is what shirt you wear, you are doing pretty good for yourself.</p>
<p>I would say there is a 3rd choice: </p>
<p>Other people's stupid opinions annoy the hell out of you. So, you tell them to be quiet and not look at your shirt.</p>
<p>we should take pride in our colleges! :)</p>
<p>how cares what they think</p>
<p>yeah. hence, a lot of people wear sweatshirts and stuff from other colleges too even though they don't even go to that college.</p>
<p>you or they must've done something or seen something that caused them to react that way. there's a different between pride and arrogance.</p>
<p>maybe there should be no super bowl after all there will be only one winner or maybe the world series should be canceled the winning will seem like they are bragging and make all the other teams feel bad lol</p>
<p>Hooray Ecco1mi!</p>
<p>Here's the thing- really everyone needs to realize that we are talking about a shirt. Yes, the way we dress says something about us... wear what you want. The point is a mature person moves on from a pang of jealousy. And remember life is a long road- my kids have had some good things happen to them recently as a result of hard work, and some kids and parents are very jealous and bitter- but I wonder if those people who are jealous would like the other part of our lives as we wait anxiously to find out about a
likely malignant tumor I jsut had removed. Citysgirlmom- as parents don't you think we should be rejoicing for the great accomplishments of all kids and teaching our kids that sometimes things don't go our way and we pick up and move on - encouraging bitterness over someone elses joy- especially a kids-
is quite frankly pathetic.</p>
<p>I would wait to wear it on campus, in the fall.</p>
<p>Do you really need to express your excitement in this way? It really does show a certain desire to show others that you have won in the competition of life, somehow. College admissions is not a sport, and the consequences of "wins" or "losses" in this process go a lot deeper than the outcome of a football game.</p>
<p>I just read a book on class/social status in America, a humorous look a the habits of different social strata. Wearing a shirt for your college once accepted, and having bumper stickers on your car or your parents' car, is typical of the lower middle class, and is considered, by the elite classes, to be vulgar. Basically, wearing a shirt for a school that is not hard to get into is not bragging, but wearing a shirt for an Ivy or other elite school is, and bragging is "vulgar" and "beneath" those who are secure in themselves and their place in society.</p>
<p>Not my ideas, but something to think about in terms of what people are feeling when they react negatively. Many people who actually end up at Harvard, for instance, end up telling people they are going to school "in Cambridge."</p>
<p>Unfortunately the intense competition at today's high performing high schools has created a situation where no one's accomplishments can be shared in a genuine, healthy manner. Our school system no longer publishes honor roll, all state members or merit semi-finalist, etc. It protects the children of out-of-control competing parents from abuse and greatly reduces the tension for everyone else. My daughter, who is a strong performer, prefers the anonymity. Her PSAT was quietly celebrated with cookies in the school cafeteria with the principal and the 15 other students who had earned that honor. There was no stress and everyone who had earned the honor could reveal their excitement in the safety of their peers who had the same honor. I think the highly selective college t-shirt/sweat shirt issue reflects the same type of concern. As my daughter says about revealing successes "why go there?" It is a much different generation with very different rules (as compmom's social class post suggests).</p>
<p>finger.</p>
<p>i agree. that's total bs. you should be proud of your accomplishments, and more so you aren't "bragging". don't take their crap. ignore it.</p>
<p>Honestly, people need to stop whining. Am I going to complain to someone who is wearing a varsity sport sweater if I didn't make the team? What if someone is wearing a Linux sweatshirt? Can I call them arrogant for trying to seem more tech savvy than your average Windows/Mac user? Can I call someone an elitist for wearing a Rolex or owning a fancy car?</p>
<p>People frequently misinterpret signals and college sweatshirts falls into the same category. If you have to complain about someone else's college shirt, then that's insecurity on your part. Yes, some people do wear them to show off because they are extremely proud of getting into a good school. There's nothing wrong with this unless they're constantly rubbing it in your face (and usually the pride will bleed out into more facets than just the shirt). Others wear them because they're comfortable or because it's simply school pride. </p>
<p>There is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing your college shirt. You shouldn't have to stop yourself because of the insecurities of others, and that applies to more than just shirts.</p>
<p>Obviouslly, for the OP, who was getting unpleasant reactions, there was a problem</p>
<p>It is all in the TIMING folks...wearing a college shirt when others are hurting is just swell!!! Where it with pride when others who worked just as hard have to deal with their rejections and deferals and waitlists...dont' worry about others feelings because you HAVE to wear that shirt because it is the only way to show pride and be comfortable</p>
<p>I am not saying never wear them, I am saying have some sensativity, but seems many lack even that</p>
<p>And guess to those that wonder why I am so adament, its that as a mother of teens who talks to HS students all the time, and lived through the process last year, I am sensitive to the feelings of those going through a rough time</p>
<p>Put it this way, if you need to wear that shirt at the same time as others are feeling crappy, you will look snooty and arrogant and insensitive...if that is how you want to seem, go for it....some kids have some concern for others and hold off, knowing inside what they have done</p>
<p>and this is not the same as a letter jacket, or a test....this is life....and sometimes in life, you don't show off when others, through no fault of their own in many cases, are going through a rough patch</p>