“Meanwhile, as kids enjoy consequence-free lines of coke in the treasurer’s room on a late friday night, we as parents and community leaders work to create ways to pay for education.”
Because drugs don’t exist outside of Greek life? You might want to take a look at drug usage at the elite LACs you refer to. Some of them are notorious for that, although from what I gather, coke is out of style.
I can understand not wanting your son to be in an organization where you fear for his safety or reputation. There are other ways to accomplish many of the things you can accomplish through Greek life, but as pointed out above, it is difficult to find ALL of the experiences you get from Greek life melded into one activity/organization. It is not for everyone. It is your choice and his and I assume you have gotten a lot out of it to continue your involvement post graduation. Why do you feel the need to put yourself in a position to choose for others?