This discussion was created from comments split from: Call from Admissions Officer.
I was just peering into my daughter’s email and there’s a message from a coach looking to find out more where said school falls on her list. Not even sure how to respond but the school is definitely on her top three list.
From a TSAO?
Hmm, what does she want to do?
Yes a TSAO member. My guess is that she’ll respond that she loves the school and that its among her favorites but will feel blessed if she can revisit.
Is it me or is the “peering” part a little strange? Just curious, do a lot of people peer?
Whatever you want to call it @laenen, yes I want to know what my kids are doing. I review their social media accounts as well.
if my DS hasn’t been getting inquiries from TSAO schools he applied to like MAandMEmom, is that a bad sign? My DS hasn’t received anything but mass communications … wish M10 was tomorrow (sigh)
I hope not. Mine isn’t getting anything personal either.
Thank you, SculptorDad. I feel slightly better. Anyone else getting personal communications other than from sports coaches? I would think that was understandable … but asking for interest level seems pretty telling that they are interested in the candidate.
Just to clarify this was not from Admissions. It was a coach.
whew! Thanks for clarifying! You must have a star athlete on your hands … good luck on M10 (smile)
Everyone needs to have a glass of wine, a hot bath, or whatever it is that calms you down. The period before M10 is supposed to be the quiet period. Not hearing anything is perfectly normal. Please do not try to read tea leaves; that will drive you nuts, is not productive and, I’ve said this before – there are no tea leaves to read. The communication you receive on M10 will tell you what you need to know. Nothing before then is normal and, if you do get some communication, don’t read anything into it.
As for “peering,” I can’t even imagine.
Thank you ChoatieMom, I feel sufficiently chastised (LOL!) … thanks for being firm (smile). It’s just so hard. Sounds like you’ve been through this process before … I keep coming back to CC because my DH is the pillar of calm and thinks I’m ridiculous for worrying about something I can’t control and has no true bearing on our DS’ life (as the poster above said, it’s not like anything will happen if he doesn’t get in anywhere). I know all this but I still can’t help it … like many on here, I’m type A and I have no others in my small town who even understands what boarding school is so CC is my only outlet now … I will try and behave and keep my crazy to a minimum (smile). I was reading posts around M10 from 2015 - it was scary and funny all at the same time.
I guess I should have clarified. DC knows that I access her email as do her siblings. I work in IT and I can tell you there are bad things going on in the dark belly of the Internet. I’m no helicopter parent, it’s just the reality of the world in which today’s youth are living.
My two children both have gmail accounts and their email comes to my phone. They know I see their email as well as my own.
DC know I access/can access their email and social media. DD is in high school. Other than “friending” or “following” her, I rarely look in. DS is in 8th grade. There is a big difference between middle school and high school IMO. I look at his group chats and social media periodically. His school has had some issues with social media…I think it is responsible parenting to monitor and discuss these issues. As I said, both kids are aware of our monitoring. (Sorry to go off topic…)
I have both my wife’s and dd’s gmail accounts. They have mine and each other’s as well. I sometimes check dd’s account to see if she is checking them, and to remind her that she has unread emails that look important. I sometimes ask my wife to check my email for some information. She does the same.
But now that dd is a teen, she changed password for her phone and some social media accounts. I am expecting her to change her email password as well, when she goes to a boarding school in the Fall.
I’m off the hook for once. My DD’s coaches do all the social media monitoring because they know one wrong post or comment can ruin a college acceptance. Other than that, she’s shared her passwords with us so we can have access if we need to (although I haven’t even thought of using my “privilege”). She’s quite aware that online privacy is an illusion.
@MAandMEmom and @queenmother – I am also in high tech. I want to relay an amusing story that my 4th grader told me. Her good friend set up a separate account in gmail and social media that his mother doesn’t know about and keeps the one that the family knows about as a straw horse. This is an 11 year old.
Here is his mom who believes that she is monitoring his online presence and in the mean time, he has a “private” one that mom has no idea about - at least until I drop a dime on the future felon.