Emancipation or other options

<p>Ok from now on for this topic i will only address the answers i feel are progressive and helpful
Oh- Yes they are but without any help from them basically a find your own way kinda deal
Madison- The Summer (which unfortunately ends here in around 14-21 days) i can definitely pencil in something if i have the other resources available probably 25-30 hours a week.
Like i have said my testing scores went down and then down further (27,25,24) the more times i took it (yes i did use study books my mind just doesnt fit the practice makes perfect mentality)
That is one of my problems my family isnt very useful for advice, counselors at school only help to an extent and taking care of my siblings has left me with pretty much no close friends
In all respects i fit the mold of a single parent more than a potential college student (except i am sure a single parent gets more benefits)</p>

<p>Bike for 5 miles. It won’t take as much time and effort as you think.
You’re going to have to do that to get to work, there’s nothing else. Once you graduate, you may be able to do all online classes from your community college, then you’d never have to leave home, you’d have more time for work, and you’d be at home with your siblings.</p>

<p>Thumper- I was unsure about reply to you because you seem to be victimizing a bit but i believe i have addressed that topic earlier in the thread the parents thing is a no go. I don’t really have any close friends either</p>

<p>"(yes i did use study books my mind just doesnt fit the practice makes perfect mentality)"
I’m not sure how well you’ll do in law school then</p>

<p>Add me to the folks who think a bicycle would be a good investment. Here are some ideas to get some money coming in. Maybe you’ve already tried a few of them.</p>

<p>Knock on the door of every neighbor who is within walking distance of your home and ask them if they need any odd jobs done or even if they need a babysitter or know someone who does? </p>

<p>Hitch a ride with one of your parents on their way to work. Get dropped off in an upper middle class neighborhood. Knock on and/or leaflet doors. Eventually, some little old lady is going to ask you to clear out her yard or her gutters and agree to pay you in cash. . Do a good job and your name will spread through that upper middle class neighborhood like wildfire.<br>
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Does your town have an online bulletin board? If so, post your services there. How about Craig’s List? Dog walking, elder care/companion, baby and pet sitting, odd jobs, house cleaning, sport coach for kids, tutor, reading to and with struggling readers. Some of these things you might be able to do in your own home. </p>

<p>Good luck. If you are willing to put in the work hard, you will be able to get that degree.</p>

<p>halfempty- First off Thank you for being constructive i believe this thread was beginning to turn on me and a lot of your ideas wont work due to distance however you did bring up a point that did jog my memory a bit in reference to online jobs. I did a few summers ago flip items for cash (Wheel and deal if you will). I was able to profit a few hundred from that. </p>

<p>For others still reading this mind this post as a guide to what your responses should model </p>

<p>206- I am more of a i do my best the first time type person maybe that came off the wrong way ( For example when playing sports i would always be lackluster in practice but had star qualities when it mattered most) (Same with clubs like Academic and Debate Team)</p>

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<p>Is using your own home a possibility? You might be surprised at how willing parents are to drive a long distance if they think your service is giving their kid an advantage in school or sports. Two of my kids give sports lessons right here in our basement and our front yard. The parents drop the kids off and pick them up. </p>

<p>Do your sibs qualify for a caretaker or respite provider under the rules and regs of your state’s disability services? You may be able to be paid a wage for being a caretaker of the sibs.</p>

<p>half- interesting idea though im not sure what i have to offer
Palo- ill have to look into this but good idea!</p>

<p>You might be surprised what you have to offer. Particularly if you are used to working with younger kids. A reluctant reader or a kid who detests math might benefit from a non-family member who is willing to work with them - particularly if their own home as become a battleground (and that happens ALL the time). </p>

<p>Also, whatever sport it was you were shining in. Last spring, my son played catch (with a real baseball) and also wiffle boy with a 7 year old boy who lacked playmates and whose parents were just really busy. That mother paid him 10 bucks an hour. Occasionally, my son and the boy walked to a nearby school, but mostly they just played right here in the front yard. That same lady wants my son to play basketball with her boy (now my son is no basketball player, but he’s certainly better than a 7 year old). A neighbor told that same son they’d give him 100 bucks if he’d teach their kid to ride a bike. My son took them up on it. It only took a few hours - my son’s time was spread out over several days, but I’ll bet his pay came to more than 20 dollars an hour.</p>

<p>The Reading thing is a cool idea i did make a 32 on that portion of the ACT, i am a couple of years removed from Football and dont really have a desire to train that but i’ll try to do more research on the viability of being a reading tutor</p>

<p>Have you considered taking the SAT? Some people suggest trying the SAT rather than retaking the ACT to try for an improved score.</p>

<p>I have talked to my counselors regarding this and they said that they wouldnt advise it but am a bit curious i must say</p>

<p>Who is supposed to watch your siblings when you go to college anyway?</p>

<p>Maybe that is why your parents arent helping? they dont want to help their free babysitter disappear???</p>

<p>mom2- perhaps although i kinda find that a bit shallow minded if that is the case and i suspect they would probably have to find somebody (however in 2 years one of them reaches adulthood so i believe they would qualify for free babysitting from the state)</p>

<p>Maybe you can find one of those magic money beans that you eat and poop gold coins.</p>

<p>I’m a little confused by this thread, but I have a couple questions.

  1. Do you have a way to get to CC? If so, then why can’t you get a job on campus or nearby
  2. If you don’t have a way to get to CC - then why don’t you apply to colleges that provide housing? There are many colleges around that will provide some merit money and financial aid to a student in your situation. You may have to take out some loans, but you can live on campus and work part-time.
  3. Are you still in hs? Are there any places near your HS where you could get a part-time after school job? Then you could walk (or bike) home.
  4. If you are really a hard-worker and want to leave home, you might try striking out on your own. Leave home, get a job, go to CC part-time. You can live in a shelter to begin with. Quite frankly, as a young LGBT person, usually shelters and options available in larger cities. (I am a pastor who works with LGBT youth). This is a tough path, and full-time college will be out of the question for a while, but it will get you out of your parents’ house. </p>

<p>This is not a college problem, but goes a lot deeper than that. Just because people are parents does not make them competent at so being. Many times people are plain too tired, depressed, busy to even deal with certain issue. When the problem has a solution right now, they do not want to address it. Easier to make it someone else’s problem </p>

<p>I can easily see how someone could figure that once a person is an adult, it’s up to that person to figure out how to get out of the house, make ends meet,etc. These parents simply may not feel able to even deal with these issues, and figure when the OP is ready to “fly” on his own, he will. Till then, he can stay at home and take care of the kids, as it takes care of serious issues they would face when that care is gone.</p>

<p>It’s not that easy nor is it automatic to get care for an adult. It’s going to take a lot of work and research, time juggling, decisions on your parents part to get care for your sibling when you leave, even when that sibling becomes an adult. Trust me on that one, as I have two disabled adults here at my house. My kids all help out, but I run the schedules and do not make them essential as I want them out of here and on their own, including being off to college. But, yes, it would be a lot easier and cheaper to make them take care of them more. My desire to have them become independent, in a college away from home, and doing other things exceeds my desires to have it easier to have ready home care. That is not the case for everyone. </p>

<p>Even taking college out of the picture, the OP is facing a problem, in that he can’t leave the house for much time to find a job, let alone work it. Has no transportation, no contacts to help in that regard and has the issue of “who takes care of the sibs?” when he does take time away from home. This is not a college problem at all. </p>

<p>Brown- That would be nice haha
Meg- No that is one of the problems
Your 2nd question is a bit confusing if you are talking about it from a fafsa or efc standpoint than i wouldnt be elligible for much aid at all. If you are talking about work for education colleges see earlier in the thread.
While my HS is close to things it is still a good 2 and a half miles from the job hubs and i still wouldnt be able to with the time crunch during the school year (see earlier in thread)
Also thank you for taking the time to be a pastor (and teacher) to LGBT youth (that simply doesn’t happen where i live), that is a possibility but i don’t live near a big city at all and while the benefits given to the homeless are good that might be a stretch.</p>

<p>cpt- I agree completely that it goes deeper than this but i think you summed up the situation pretty well and that its dire and needs an elaborate idea to fix it.</p>