you would be better served getting a police report, then having X petition the court for a no-contact/restraining order. that documentation would greatly assist X’s case in apply for a dependency override.
This makes NO sense. Just about every employer will offer direct deposit to a bank account for pay earned. “X” should open their own bank account, and arrange direct deposit into that account. His parents would have NO access.
If the employer insists on a paycheck, “X” should cash his check immediately when received, and deposit it into his own bank account where his parents would have NO access.
If the employer insists on mailing a paycheck, “X” should get a P.O. box in his name only…and have his checks sent there. Again NO parent access would be possible.
How DO the parents have access to “X”'s money? How?
No advice, but following along with interest. Safety from a physical harm or threat? If there was a previous assault, was it as a minor, and was it reported or treated? If so, or if placed in foster care as a minor, I would think it would be easier to get a letter from the physician. What is meant by “shipping out of state” ? I assume it means paying for a ticket and a place to stay? Will the student still be able to attend the $8 k school for 8 k?
This story makes no sense. You’re saying that the young adult doesn’t live at home, but his parent/step-parent somehow “force” this person to give his/her paycheck to the parents?? What could they do to him/her if s/he didn’t ? How is this being enforced?
How is s/he paying for wherever s/he is living?
It’s not a paycheck. It’s an inheritance from the death of a parent.
It’s not a direct deposit. It’s a mailed check. There are forms that need to be filled out in order to have the checks rerouted. The documentation needed for said paperwork is in the ‘parents’ home. We are working with the trust company to correct this… However, we’ve found out that the ‘parents’ have already called inquiring on the trust. I’m not getting into details on the force because, quite frankly, there’s no need to. There are all sorts of levels of abuse… And “just leave” or “don’t answer” aren’t always options.
X cannot live with me. I have 3 of my own. We are in a 2 bedroom apt while we wait out the delays with our future home.
Were working on documentation for the trust company and still trying to get the schools financial aid office to work with us.
I appreciate everyone’s support… Sincerely.
Those of you that don’t think this makes sense… Id like you to consider this…
I came looking for guidance and options… Not to fuel curiosity. I’m already putting enough of X’s personal life out there… I don’t want to put more than absolutely necessary.
Jem- you are in luck since the purloined funds are coming from a trust company. They are acting as fiduciaries and therefore have a much higher threshold legally than if the money were coming as paychecks from work as a waiter at a local diner.
If you are finding it hard to get the documentation, one quick phone call to the compliance department at this bank (or insurance company, or the law firm acting as trustee) to let them know that there has been suspected fraud will be enough for the payments to be suspended ASAP. You will not need any documentation to make this phone call- your friend just needs to identify himself as the heir of X (maybe they’ll ask date of birth, parent’s date of death, and his social security number) and then you can straighten out the finances.
Banks have a lot at stake if they are improperly disbursing trust assets. They will work with you to fix this, and have zero incentive to allow anyone but the proper heir to have access to the funds. And a huge incentive to do the right thing (which in this case is also the legal thing).
I understand now. It didn’t make sense when you said it was income. I assumed it was from a job.
I hope this all works out.
If there is abuse, the police really should be called, in my opinion. Sounds like he is too old for child protective services.
No one should be in an abusive situation.
If you don’t put enough facts out there posters have to go on assumptions, suppositions, and probabilities.
And it’s not uncommon for people to make up stories here, for kicks, I guess. So people tend to try to vet things before they start getting too involved with advice. I can assure you that the folks who felt like things weren’t making sense are long-standing members of the community who have a lot of experience and wisdom…definitely not folks who were fueling their curiosity. Unfortunately, the long-standing members are the ones who have seen the most deception here.
On to the problem at hand…no advice, except to say that my husband (a pastor) has had to write the letters that people are speaking of here, and is glad to do it. He does have to recertify every year that circumstances haven’t changed. The high school also sends letters, I believe. And thank goodness the money is in a trust!
Thank you for the help you’re giving this young person. People like you are life savers in every sense of the word.