<p>Wow…
Maybe a little gratitude and appreciation could go a long ways here.
First, congratulations to your son. He has worked hard and done well, and is likely to continue in this manner. You should be proud.
As for your statement “some colleges would never be able to get my son into a PhD program” - eyemgh is correct. It is your son who will need to get himself in, and there are no guarantees either way. I’ve seen Ivy League and MIT kids unable to land a spot, while others from small or “no name” schools do just fine.
The schools that have made offers to your son are not trying to trick you, but neither can they promise what you seem to want.</p>
<p>For most families, college will cost some amount of money. If you are unwilling or unable to pay, you will need to be honest about this, with yourself and your son. Maybe you’ll be among the fortunate few who get exactly what they want and pay nothing, but that is rare. Even the best students sometimes need to compromise.</p>
<p>It sounds like your son will have great offers to choose from, even it they’re not exactly what you were hoping for.</p>
<p>Finally, I know this can be a trying time, but it can also be fun and exciting.</p>
<p>Hope you’re able to find some enjoyment and peace</p>