<p>Be genuine and talk to her about the money issue. You shouldn’t be paying for every date – that’s unreasonable. My girlfriend and I come from very different backgrounds. She comes from a fabulously wealthy family and doesn’t bother to think about money. I am completely financially independent out of necessity and no other options. I only paid for our first date and now all costs are split. It’s reasonable and makes sense for us.</p>
<p>Uh, I’ve seen plenty of people date people much better looking than them. Maybe that’s because my friends aren’t shallow. I’m actually not a complete cynic and think looks determine if people should be together. You’re obviously just putting on a facade on here to get people stirred up, if I had no life outside of the internet I might do the same.</p>
<p>Flirt hard and fast! You MUST be confident when you are with women. The reality is that women are extremely self conscious no matter how pretty they are. If you think she’s “above” you then tease her about her appearance in a joking way. “Why are you wearing that?”, “The colors your are wearing clash, why would anyone wear somehting like that?”, etc. This is to get her feeling self conscious and to get her to think that you have high standards and have been with many women before. </p>
<p>About the bill thing: Ask her to split–simple as that, otherwise, be honest to her. No women feel *entitled *to have meals, drinks, gifts, etc. paid for by the man, b/c they are pretty. A man pays for these things b/c of his generosity and kindness, NOT b/c he has to!</p>
<p>You should pay for her for a while more. She should eventually offer to start splitting the bill (regardless of her financial situation- I have dated a girl in high school who had financial issues, so she has to work two jobs and was in all the top class in the IB program, yet she still insisted on paying for her half of the expensive dates, despite me recently buying a brand new luxury car and other luxuries); however, if it is a special occasion you should tend to pay. If she never offers or stops going out with you for that reason, there is no point to continue anything further with her. </p>
<p>I never believe in the whole dating league crap…sounds like something out of a television show or high school.</p>
<p>BTW do not listen to the above post. You do not need to pretend things. Be yourself. I have had friends who were jealous of how many girls are attracted to me, they thought I just put on an act for the ladies, but in reality I just act myself.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/963204-finally-possible-girlfriend-how-much-do-i-need-pay.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/963204-finally-possible-girlfriend-how-much-do-i-need-pay.html</a></p>
<p>For those wondering, Thermo does not devote his whole time on CC to finding a girlfriend. In fact, 43 of his posts are not related to girls, for the most part.</p>
<p>However, that would be 44 if you don’t count the one in the thread where a girl asked about the weirdness of engineering guys. </p>
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<p>Also, you may have noticed he is dedicated to his school work so he can go to a good grad school. One of his criteria for grad school…</p>
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<p>Another interesting tidbit. </p>
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<p>One thing I do not understand is this…</p>
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<p>Oh, and Thermo, if you haven’t noticed… the studying 6 hours a day on weekdays and the 11 hours on weekends would be why you’ve never had a girlfriend.</p>
<p>I mean seriously, you also said you have/had a 3.9 GPA, could you really not be a little more social and maybe have like… a 3.7…</p>
<p>But, on the bright side, since you said you wanted to be a professor in the long run, maybe you’ll find some students who need a few extra points.</p>
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ahahahah good one!</p>
<p>OP is probably a ■■■■■? or just obsessed lmao</p>
<p>Am I the only person that gets weirded out when people go through other peoples previous posts, like Vanechka just did?</p>
<p>And just in general, if you want advice on girls/dating, I’m not sure if a college forum is the best place to elicit advice.</p>
<p>I get curious when I see the same thread by the same person 1000 times. I’m sorry you don’t feel the same way.</p>
<p>It’s a little intrusive, but whatever. To each his own.</p>
<p>So, what exactly am I intruding?</p>
<p>At least he’s not tracing your IP and going through files on your computer.</p>
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<p>Oh awesome, here we go with the crappy “negging” advice. This “technique” will not make her think you have “high standards”, it will make her think, “Wow, this guy is a total jackass. I’m out of here.”</p>
<p>OP–you’re afraid if you don’t pay for dinner anymore, this girl won’t like you/date you anymore? If the thing she likes best about you is that you pay for meals, then she doesn’t like you very much. And if that’s the case, you shouldn’t even go out with her. Plenty of other fish in the sea. </p>
<p>A lot of your phrasing shows a lack of self-confidence–for example, that she’s “willing” to go on dates with you–like it’s some huge hardship for her and that she’s “above a guy like you.” Start liking yourself more and stop obsessing about some imaginary scale.</p>
<p>As far as the dinners go, talk to her. “Hey, I’d like to go out to dinner Friday, but I’m broke. Is it cool if we split the check from now on?” Do NOT spring it on her at dinner without previously talking about it.</p>
<p>I’m sorry but if you say “The colors you are wearing clash, why would anyone wear somehting like that?”, she’s not gonna think you have high standards and have been with many women before. Rather, she’s gonna think you’re gay and have been with many men before.</p>
<p>People are strange. I think looking through posting history is weird and a waste of time, but people on here are in some cases hostile and looking to attck people instead of just givin g feedback</p>
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LOL. Did somebody truly suggest that? I actually would want to get closer and closer to a guy like that. But only because I’d assume that we could talk about hot guys together over a tub of sherbert.
If this chick doesn’t respect you enough to pay, OP, then cut your losses now. Every other piece of valuable (and not-so-valuable) advice has been posted already.</p>