<p>I'd like to start out by saying that there is a misconception that college is a open fun adventure. It's proven to be more close-minded and lonely than most people's description of high school.
I graduated from high school almost 2 years ago, after I graduated I moved with my mom and aunt to a place 20 miles away and since then I lost not only all
My high school friends due to distance and drama, but I have also failed to gain any friends in the year I've been in my new location. I had everything in high school: I knew everyone, most people were acquaintances, I had lots of good friends, I had a nice car, I was on the football team, and the ladies loved me. Ever since I went to community college however, my social sotuation has decayed to a point where my only remaining friends consist of: my dogs, my mom, my aunt, my girlfriend, my mechanic, and my 1964 impala. Everyone I meet at my community college is either older than my impala or anti social and busy. The situation isn't that much better at the 4 years around me. A younger buddy of mine, before he got sucked away from my contact by drama, said he has made no real friends at his 4 year college. Although I get straight As I feel
As if the only people/things I can talk to are my 1964 impala, my dogs, and my girlfriend. I am almost desperate enough
To go to local
High schools and cruise by on my schwinn stingray and hope someone initiates a conversation.</p>
<p>And before you recommend approaching people, so many people are stuck up nowadays that they find it creepy and weird just to initiate a conversation</p>
<p>All I know is that my HS life sucks and it would be hard for me to imagine anything worse.</p>
<p>I’m waiting for college because I know about 60% of the people in my HS from middle school, and we’ve long established our first impressions of each other. I want to start fresh in college and meet some new people.</p>
<p>No matter what, I’m going to go to a university straight after high school. Almost EVERYONE who graduated from my very competitive high school said that college is way better. The workload is a joke, and they party all the time. These are the dumb and smart people. </p>
<p>I think it’s different for everyone depending on what kind of high school you go to. If you go to a regular, chill high school with your typical cliques and whatnot, then yea I can see why you miss it. But for me, high school is nothing like that. It’s complete competition and college prep. I can’t wait for it to be over… or to get to senior year at least.</p>
<p>Agreed with Wiscongene. People in my school think that they know each other and assume everything about each other. In college I want to start fresh. It’s not I have a bad high school life, but I don’t feel like I fit in too well with my ‘social group’ right now.</p>
<p>I’ve had mixed feelings about college because it represents saying good-bye to my first chapter of my life and I’m not mentally ready to embrace that yet. There’s too many things I still want to do that I’ll never be able to do in a university.</p>
<p>College is awesome. Sorry to hear you had a bad experience, but it’s hardly representative. </p>
<p>Of course, I’m just going to a pretty sweet college ;)</p>
<p>I’m not advocating the avoidance of college. I’m advocating that high school should be cherished. Even with it’s bully’s one can have a good time if they stand up for themselves.
However college has it’s cliques and you may have a trouble meeting people because those cliques barriers of entry will be huge since they’ve known each other for who knows how long.
What I’m saying is college is a step in life but so far it’s proven to be a lonely boring antisocial one for me.</p>
<p>Barriers of entry will be huge*
confused barriers of entry with points of entry because
Of such little anxiety from not having any real social contact in months</p>
<p>@Impala, just because your social life after high school wasn’t successful doesn’t mean it will be for us.</p>
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<p>Maybe for some people, but definitely not for most people.</p>
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<p>Wouldn’t it be the opposite, since everyone at college is new? You have an entire class of people who have just been torn from their friends and family, and thrown into an ocean of people they’ve never seen or met. Therefore, there wouldn’t be “cliques” (something pretty nonexistent at my college…).</p>
<p>I corrected myself and no, cliques are real. I was at my friends 4 year college at a party and guess what, small separate groups were talking to each other (and none were dancing). It was more segregated than a 1959 Alabama restaurant.</p>
<p>I wish I was little bit taller,
I wish I was a baller
I wish I had a girl who looked good
I would call her
I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat
and a '64 Impala</p>
<p>Well, I’m 6’2 so I have that covered
I occasionally still play basketball by myself
it’s quite nice
but I hardly get to do that
I have a bat, but no rabbit in a hat
And yes, very nice piece of machinery, nonetheless it doesn’t really get to its job since I let it sit in the front yard most of the time. Clever wordsmanship nonetheless</p>
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<p>Oh no, small groups of friends were talking to each other. What a divided school! Sorry for the sarcasm, but groups of people talking to each other without dancing do not constitute cliques. There are groups of friends at my college too, but in the end there aren’t the jocks, bros, goths, nerds, band geeks, etc. groups that are usually associated with high school. Those people still exist, yes, but the boundaries in place before have disappeared.</p>
<p>I’m getting to the boundaries part: I told my friend to approach them to talk and they looked at my friend like a weirdo for say hi and trying to have a conversation! Sounds just like High School cliques.</p>
<p>I was going to say this thread is a nice reminder.</p>
<p>Then I noticed the OP was a former football player that said he “had it all” that goes to a community college. He really fits in with CC.</p>
<p>I go there for the discounted price. I easily get As, so it’s not like I’m some dumb jock. I’m just stating my situation.</p>
<p>1964: I don’t doubt your situation one bit but I feel like it’s only true to a minority of people. Nontheless, I’ll be taking your advice seriously, and make the most of what’s left. SENIORS!!!</p>
<p>@OtherWindow - not everyone can afford college >_></p>