It infuriates me that this is what “holistic” admissions has come to, assuming one isn’t on the preferred admissions track (recruited athlete, donor child, URM, maybe legacy). There are many extraordinary applicants who grew up in healthy, prosperous, peaceful, 2-parent households, where no one was seriously ill, who’ve had no serious adversity - and they know how lucky they’ve been. There are applicants who were absolutely devastated by something that others might consider trivial, like not making the cheer leading squad, who then found their niche in the theater department. There are applicants who lost loved ones to terrible illnesses, or grew up with a mentally ill parent or sibling, and just took it all in stride, because of the overall atmosphere of the household, and don’t think of themselves as having dealt with any more adversity than anyone else.
All these applicants’ experiences are equally valid, and in my opinion, equally irrelevant. What should matter is the record that they’ve amassed - grades, scores, awards, creative work, etc. This is why I think that the “adversity” essay should be only one optional choice among a number of essay choices, including “a topic of your own choosing”.
Do you really think that the kid who has had to overcome true adversities (household drug addiction, alcoholism, mental illness, serious physical illness, domestic violence, neighborhood violence, a criminal family member who winds up incarcerated, grinding poverty and the humiliation of homelessness, the death of a nuclear family member) really wants to write about it? This is the stuff of lurid family drama memoirs written in middle age, not fodder for college applications. Is it trite to write about overcoming the adversity of getting placed in the horrible teacher’s section, while half your schoolmates got the wonderful teacher, and yet managing to teach yourself the material, get a high AP score, and somehow find something of value in what that horrible teacher had to offer? Or of getting dropped by the popular kids, and learning to find value in friendships with the less popular crowd?
Sure, any applicant can write well, could write a good essay about overcoming the adversity of having missed out on the last chocolate Dixie cup ice cream, and having had to make do with a vanilla one. (I’d love to submit a sham application with a full page essay about having had the resilience to overcome THAT experience!) Honestly, if I had been faced with that as a mandatory essay (and I grew up in a household that would have been worth a book and movie deal in the lurid family drama genre), I would have been so offended by the question’s intrusiveness that I probably would have written an essay about what a crappy, inappropriate question it was, if I hadn’t simply tossed that application in the trash can.
So if your child is faced with a mandatory adversity essay, I’d tell them to interpret it however they like, and just make sure that the essay is well-written, in their own voice, and tells the admissions committee something that will make them want to admit your child, even if it’s just that they learned the joy of vanilla Dixie cups that day.