<p>I'm sure that a number of us on CC are or have been in situations similar to my family's, and I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts about it or reflections on how you handled them.</p>
<p>Our three kids have all had similar HS records - strong grades, GPAs and ECs. D1 was applying to college five years ago and got into her reach school, Harvard. We were delighted to find that our financial situation at the time enabled her to attend Harvard for roughly the cost of room and board at an in-state public. Two years later her younger sister was applying to college. She too wound up at Harvard, where both girls have had great experiences. </p>
<p>S is now an 11th-grader and we're putting together a list of schools to visit. Like his sisters, I anticipate that he'll get his SATs above 2200 though like them, he came up a couple points shy of the state's National Merit cutoff. He may be able to aim at Ivies and comparables, but isn't interested in the Ivies (or schools like MIT, Chicago, or Wash U) because his primary passion is playing the snare in marching bands. Pursuing the marching snare in college is important to him - not only is it a favorite pastime at which he's very good, it's a pursuit that provides the core of his social group and, he hopes, will continue as a valued lifelong activity.</p>
<p>A year ago, my wife and I came into an inheritance that now places our EFC in the upper $50Ks / low $60Ks. Some of that is tied up in real estate; with some we hope to help our kids in young adulthood and ourselves through retirement. We'll no longer qualify for need-based aid, but while we could come up with the funds to pay full fare at a top private university, it would use up much of that cushion for the future. Our regular annual family income remains around $100K. D2, a junior at Harvard, pays more in tuition than she used to but still gets significant aid due to Harvard's uniquely generous aid policies.</p>
<p>The girls have had remarkable college opportunities. They've experienced life outside their native South, traveled around the world, and made friends from all across the country and the globe. Their peer groups have been incredibly inspiring. And they've been able to have that experience within the budget they'd have needed for an in-state public.</p>
<p>An ideal fit for S could be Northwestern. He could have a similar quality of experience to that of his sisters, but for him it would cost $240,000. On the other hand, his focus - unlike that of his sisters - is on science and math. We have Georgia Tech as an in-state option, and if he keeps his grades > 3.0, he could graduate from there for around $40,000. If he fell below 3.0 and lost the state's HOPE (full-tuition) scholarship, in-state tuition is still only $7,000 a year compared to 4X that figure elsewhere. The Georgia Tech lifestyle admittedly isn't for everyone; if it doesn't resonate, UGA could be available at the same price.</p>
<p>Georgia Tech or UGA make all the sense in the world given the family's finances and S's marching snare passion. But we placed no limits on his sisters' aspirations when they wanted to apply to Harvard, Yale, Georgetown and Northwestern. It's tough to envision telling S that he can't have the opportunities that we afforded them just a few years ago.</p>
<p>Have any of you had to deal with changing family circumstances that impacted the scope of college choices for your younger kids?</p>