<p>I personally don't believe in the Ladder Theory. IMHO, if you're an attractive person (in both appearance and personality), chances are that eventually, even the closest of your friends will develop some feelings for you. So have any of you ever become friends with somebody with seemingly no further intentions, only to fall for them later? </p>
<p>PS And no, I'm not currently in a platonic friendship with someone I'm desperately in love with.</p>
<p>yes, my current boyfriend and i became friends freshman year. i had no romantic interest in him until about a month before we started going out sophmore year. we have been pretty much steady since then, and were seniors now.</p>
<p>Nope. Then again all my friends of the opposite sex ditch me the second they find out that I haven't been attracted to them ever since I met them, so it's not exactly like I get a long-term chance.</p>
<p>well... yes.. my current SO!! but i do have attractive friends of the opposite sex who, even if i were single, i woudlnt want to date or hook up with. but wait.. what is the ladder theory?</p>
<p>do guys even become friends with girls they aren't interested in on some level (might not be high but it's there)? (hint: if you answer yes there is a 89 percent chance you are female!)</p>
<p>sure. even inattractive girls have attractive friends.</p>
<p>Falling for a friend and its unrequited is terrible. It ruined a friendship for me, but after a while we became friends again :)</p>
<p>In high school I only liked one of my guy friends...but the friendship pretty much started because I thought he was good-looking and fun. We dated off and on but ended up just as good friends. No big deal, nothing ugly happened.</p>
<p>Same thing goes for the guy I'm currently seeing. I was definitely interested in him (way more than I ever was the high school guy) from day one.</p>
<p>Those are the only two friends I've ever been more than friends with (or wanted to, for that matter)...but most of my guy friends from high school asked me out at least once by the time we graduated, so I'm thinking it's much more likely for the guy friend to fall for the girl than it is the girl friend to fall for the guy.</p>
<p>Hahaha @ BlahDeBlah... you should give those nice guys a chance. What was wrong with them in the first place?</p>
<p>I had a crush on my ex for the longest time before we started dating, almost since I'd known him, but we were friends for months before. I'm pretty sure he saw me only as a friend for a most of the time before we started dating (I started seeing another guy and wasn't around as much and he was like, "dude where did she go? I miss her!"). Unfortunately, he's in another country right now indefinitely.</p>
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<p>Eh...it depends. In my experience friends I've had since really early on...like elementary school, even middle school...I've developed more of a brother/sister / sister/sister relationship with. It would be weird if there were any attractions.</p>
<p>But friendships that have only lasted like a year or two as opposed to eight...that's a different story and I think you're right :o.</p>
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<p>Haha yeah. If the guy isn't into you, he's into somebody else in the group...</p>
<p>^ Very true.
Although try 8 as opposed to 14 years. :P</p>
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<p>"Wrong" in what sense? I liked them as people, I thought they were fun to be around, but I wasn't ever physically attracted to them. I still don't get why some people think this is some kind of shocking phenomenon...I think it'd be a bit more strange to be attracted to every single person you meet, instead.</p>
<p>I think what was originally meant was that they are attracted to you (or at least find you physically attractive).</p>
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<p>Yes. A female friend, no matter how attractive she is, is always a good change of pace from the usual pack of broskis. </p>
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<p>That's what I meant: you go to college and make a bunch of female friends your freshmen year because you'd rather not jump into a relationship with the first semi-attractive girl you talk to. There's definite potential for something more in the upcoming college years amongst all these "just friends".</p>
<p>u guys need serious help. are u guys going to tell me next that ur falling for ur sisters or ur brothers or ur daughters or ur grandpas? </p>
<p>now if ur friend of opposite sex was a recent one, then that's cool. but, if he/she was ur friend since kintergarder, that's a bit odd.</p>
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<p>Um, let's get back on track here guys.</p>
<p>I actually think a relationship with someone you've known for 14-15 years as a friend would work out better than one with someone you've known for 1 or 2. The reason is because you have known them a long time, they know you, and you know each other very well.</p>
<p>I became really close with two guys at the beginning of this year. We just seemed to click and we hung out a lot. I got the sense that one of them maybe liked me, because we stayed up until ridiculous hours of the morning talking, and I asked him out and he said that he only liked me as a friend. He now has a gf and we're still pretty good friends although not as close as before. Unfortunately, I now have a crush on the other guy (his best friend) and he probably only likes me as a friend as well. I didn't start out liking either of them, or thinking that either of them was attractive. I think i began to like them because the more we hung out and the closer we became the more I realized what wonderful people they are. So my theory is, no, you can't really be just friends unless one of you is completely unavailable.</p>
<p>Don't do it. Not when your in college.</p>
<p>Case in point: my best friend. Invests 5 months of emotional energy getting this girl to move from friend to more than friends. Now here's the dillema: girl has boyfriend back home, misses him, and is doing poorly in school, meaning she is likely to drop out and move back. My friend wants to go to Columbia for grad school, super motivated, etc. Plus she smokes all his weed. I just got done telling him to get over this broad. (He also doesn't know I banged her in the beginning of the year).</p>
<p>At first I was mad I was single, but now I'm so damn happy.</p>