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<p>I hope that was facetious. Faculty are on “call” 24-7 with full responsibility for other people’s adolescent children and what often suffers is relationships with their own.</p>
<p>Exeter is just not for everyone–indeed, it is probably for a select few–not just based on candle power–although that is a given–but also on how disciplined and hardworking the student is. I wonder how much of the work load comes from the teachers and how much is generated by the students themselves both in pushing themselves and, with Harkness, seeing themselves in other students’ eyes. </p>
<p>In the Exonian after the change to more Saturdays off was made there were a number of op-eds by STUDENTS bemoaning the diminution of Exonan standards. I have discovered that in speaking with a kid I can guess with fairly good certainty whether they are an Andy or an Exonian. They are different kids (so, btw are Harvardians and Yalies…). It is the rare kid after visiting the two doesn’t have a strong gut feeling where they belong. They just KNOW. Trust the gut.</p>
<p>I cannot obviously speak for all Exonians, but I fondly remember my time at Exeter. What made my time at Exeter so extraordinary were the people.</p>
<p>Maybe it is not that Exeter is 0% fun, but that those who attend Exeter are no fun. Of course this comes from someone who married and sent a kid there. So, that was a joke.</p>
<p>Having said that, be very careful about sending someone there. It is a lot to ask a 9, 10, 11 grader. Those who go usually should be there as school very well weeds out those who should not be there (by the way that is not an insult by any stretch – heck I did not belong there, ever). </p>
<p>To those who go – great place. What’s not to like? In fact, it grows on you. Then you go to college, and yuk. The average alum will write back to their teachers from their dorms and state how college is not as great – really! </p>
<p>That place changed my child’s life. And, in turn it changed my own. But, as I stated earlier, I prefer the vicarious attendance.</p>
<p>It really is starting to **** me off that every school that is NOT Andover, Exeter, and a tiny cluster of others is referred to on this site over and over again as “Second Tier.” These “great schools” that some people are relegating to second- or third-class status are among the best in the world. And in the context of this discussion, many of these schools can offer vibrant communities where students can be challenged academically and have FUN too!</p>
<p>Amen, @hilldweller.</p>
<p>Those are the worst kinds of snobs and often the ones bypassed on that coveted IVY road they’re chasing.</p>
<p>I agree about the silliness of tiers. But I’m also tired of the suggestion that a kid can’t go to Exeter AND have fun too. Equally silly.</p>
<p>I have a hard time believing how Exeter students cannot have fun, particularly now with hootoo in toll. Silly in deed.</p>
<p>On a second thought, I will make sure I don’t get too much fun, as someone gets to do the dirty work.</p>
<p>Now it is outrage. :mad: My post count just reached 200, but CC still calls me “Junior Member”. All work, no reward? :(</p>
<p>The unhappy kids at Exeter and Andover, are, generally, the kids who would be fine in a public school but whose parents force them to go to Exeter/Andover/any HADES school because they went there and their children must go there too.</p>