i am currently in the 9th grade but i just found out that i fail my the first semester i’m really stressing out because if i fail the 9th grade again my mother is going to kill i’m in cyber school now but i’m not doing so well and my biggest fear is failing again I’ve been under so much pressure and stress that i feel like i’m never going to be something and i’m such a big failure and the worst part i haven’t even told my parents yet like how do you tell your parents that like Hey mom and i’m so sorry i fail again it just been so hard for me this past year i don’t know what to do
Why are you in cyber school instead of a traditional classroom?
Work harder, focus more on passing your classes. Ask for help. Why are you failing? Is traditional classroom a better alternative?
i was bullied a lot in traditional school and had missed a lot of days because of medical reasons
I am sorry about the bullying. I’m just wondering if you might do better in a traditional setting, if you were able to find a school setting that wasn’t as stressful as before.
Sorry to hear as well. Hope you find what works best. Still, it will take hard work and some patience.
Think critically about why you failed your courses. Were you missing assignments? Did you procrastinate and do things at the last minute? Did you not study for tests? Did you focus on the wrong things when you studied? Did you work as hard as you could but still failed? Were their medical issues? Once you figure out what caused you to fail, then you can set up strategies to correct it.
And you need to tell your parents. Say what happened and why you think that it happened. Your parents may be angry or disappointed or frustrated but that’s just because they want you to do well. Try to come up with strategies that can help you do well and ask them for help in this process. Perhaps, you could benefit from a tutor or a study schedule or something.
When you say you’ve failed 9th grade, specifically what do you mean? Have you failed 6 classes or one or two? And is “failing” a 64% or a 46%??
If you’re failing, say, math or science, it may be that some outside tutoring would help.
If it’s a broader problem, then it seems to demand a broader solution.
But personally, I would look for a brick and mortar school. I can’t imagine learning all I needed to know via the computer. And I would imagine that someone who had been bullied has even more of a reason to need a secure social setting to help heal some of those wounds. You need to know that there are some great, accepting kids out there— that you can (and deserve to) have a traditional high school social experience.
Have the conversation with your parents this evening. They love you and want what’s best.
Be totally truthful… and that’s going to be a bit of an issue. Because you didn’t just find out you were in academic trouble. Surely you took some tests, quizzes, assessments… you must have known this was a distinct possibility. It’s not fair to drop this on your parents with no warning. They deserve more from you.
So, yes, they’ll be rightfully disappointed, mostly from being blindsided. But they love you and want you to do well. Help them to help you by being honest about your situation, letting them know where your stumbling blocks are.
You CAN get through this. It won’t be an instant fix, but you can get through. The first, hardest step, is getting up the nerve to tell your parents. Do it tonight, and tomorrow you can start to pull together a plan for working this out.
The best of luck to you. Let us know tomorrow how it’s going and what your action plan is.
I would suggest the traditional school option as well. This year I’ve been taking an online class in addition to my regular classes, and it’s far more difficult in my opinion. In this class, it’s a work at your own pace, but finish by X date sort of arrangement. It takes a lot of self discipline and motivation, which was probably my greatest detriment. I somehow managed to get my life together about half way through last semester (prior to that I submitted 2 assignments) and completed the rest of the semester in eight weeks. If you don’t have the work ethic to survive in online school, maybe an actual teacher asking for your assignments and helping you with them (if needed) will be beneficial. Good luck.
So, jojotehn, did you speak to your parents? How did it go?