<p>I failed my first year of college. Issues with roommate led to poor decisions to not attend classes and just stay in my room all day. I tried seeking help but then failed on my part to seek extra help and maintain recieving help. I'm now in a bind b/c my fathers work offers a scholarship every year for college students all you need to do is write an essay and submit a transcript. Of course without my parents knowing that I had failed wanted me to apply for this scholarship. So i wrote the essay and my dad called me and said I got the money b/c all I need to do is give them the college transcript. Now I'm stuck bc i don't wanna give them the college transcript. What do I do? I need help!</p>
<p>You have to tell your parents the truth. Period.</p>
<p>I guess nepotism can only get one so far…</p>
<p>Yeah, you’re going to have to come clean about this, as hard as it may be, and take considerable steps to ensure that you don’t find yourself in such a situation again (that is, if higher education is really for you. It simply isn’t for everyone).</p>
<p>Assuming that you are telling us the truth…</p>
<p>You have to tell your parents, because taking the scholarship when you haven’t met the requirements would be theft, and make your father look awful at work. Stealing is a terrible burden to carry. You have enough already to carry, don’t pick this up too.</p>
<p>More importantly, unless your parents are awful, awful people, they would not want you to carry this alone. They would want to help you regroup, rethink, and mend. They would want to help you decide what to do next. (They would want to not throw good money after bad without knowing). Will they be shocked? Probably. Will they yell? Maybe. Will they cry? Absolutely. For your difficulties, for your problems, for not being there for you because they didn’t know. </p>
<p>They love you. They would want to know. Be brave, and just tell them. How do I know all this?</p>
<p>It already happened to my family. We are working through the trust issues, but I was never so relieved as to find out I wasn’t imagining my son’s evasiveness, weird behavior, and depression. Of course, my heart still breaks for him, doing all the pretending; I have cried buckets. BUT he is completing his degree with a better plan, better roommates, better support and all our love. You can too! If you had a broken leg, you wouldn’t try to fix it all on your own, or just give up. Every school has a way to help those who are struggling to hang on. Go tell your parents, go get the help you need and a plan that works for you. Best of luck</p>