<p>Many schools have everything online - grades, syllabus, etc. so you can check how your child is doing and what the expectations are for each class. Yes, as college students are generally considered adults, they have to grant you rights to see grades, etc. If it was my child, I’d make granting me access a requirement for paying for him to go back to school. That will allow you to stay on top of things better. Others have also offered great advice.
And as for prestigious SUNY schools, there are a couple. IMHO, Geneseo and Binghamton are extremely good schools and can be compared to private schools anywhere. Good luck.</p>