<p>Thanks for all your replies. This fiasco wasn’t a lack of ability or intelligence, he was being defiant and by the time he realized who would suffer, it was too late to recover.</p>
<p>We’d forgotten that 18 yo’s are vastly smarter than their parents!</p>
<p>I am reminded of Will Smiths’ line in I Robot, “You are the dumbest smart person I know”!</p>