While it may be a Quixotic hope with EA/ED notifications around the corner, please don’t succumb to the temptation to imitate those who came before you and make and upload an acceptance video when top-college X accepted them. Some kid screaming and running around is narcissism defined, IMHO.
Lmao what is it to you? Why can’t accepted students express their happiness for working their butts off for the past 17-18 years to reach this milestone?
I think acceptance videos should continue to be posted because people can see that hard work does pay off. Getting that acceptance letter is exciting. :)>-
Well while you’re at it, you should discourage pregnancy reaction videos and sports fans reaction videos. I mean, how narcissistic to show your excitement over something that is really important to you. No one’s twisting your arm and making you watch.
“Act like you’ve been there before” - Barry Sanders, on touchdown celebrations.
Feel free not to watch.
Funny how the consensus on the Facebook post thread a while ago, if I recall correctly, was “Yes, don’t be a jerk to people who aren’t as happy with their decisions” and in this one it’s knee-jerk defensiveness :))
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” 
Why not have a parent thread for people who are ecstatic about their kid not being accepted to an expensive private university?
Or a parent thread about holding down a job, paying your mortgage, and raising halfway decent kids?
Getting into a college is NOT the hard part. Finishing college is.
Acceptance videos are only acceptable when one or more of the following is true:
- first college student in the family
- parent or parents are military
- student has a disability or very very significant SES issue (orphan, dirt poor)
When they fall under the “how cute!” like when someone proposes on the Jumbotron, I get sick. But the Kardashians make me sick too, so I am not the standard viewer…
Maybe someone just wants to record and share a very big moment in his/her life. I don’t see how this is wrong or narcissistic in anyway. If you find it unpleasant and displeasing I think it would be easier for you to avoid the video than telling a bunch of people not to record/post it.
Ghettoize them to one thread, anyhow…
I think putting them in the college’s thread let alone an ED or RD thread really irks those who aren’t accepted. And could more than irk sensitive teens 
Except there is no way they have been there before or will again. It is a pretty unique achievement in the life of that individual who, in this age when everything is instantly social media fodder, will of course choose to put it online for their friends and family, and if anyone else happens to click on it then so be it.
Actually when it comes to Harvard, Stanford, etc. I think that is not a true statement. A far higher percentage that get into those schools finish than the percentage that get in. In fact, except for the schools that accept almost everyone, graduation rates are usually higher than acceptance rates, so I think the statement might be not true more than it is, at least for 4 year colleges.
I am amazed when people complain about things that are not only harmless, but so easily avoidable for them. And to say there are certain “rules” when it is acceptable is more than baffling to me. I better stop at that to stay within the bounds of civility.
But I will say that the whole mentality of not recognizing achievement because it will hurt the feelings of those that didn’t achieve it burns me a lot. I don’t agree with it in the least, and I don’t think it makes for better and stronger people in society in general. I think a lot of this nonsense in schools now where students think they have a right to be protected from any ideas that upset them comes from just this type of thinking and behavior.
So bottom line: easy solution. Don’t click on the links to the YouTube videos if you don’t like that sort of thing. The same way I watch zero “reality” TV shows. It is so easy, and I have never felt the need to write the networks and tell them to stop producing reality TV shows. Why should I deprive others of what they like, even if I could?
I am a new member here, but this post surprises me. One, my son will barely take a photo and would never let me video tape something like that. Two, even if I did, it would end up being silly because he is very quiet and would not have a reaction other than maybe slamming his fist down on the table. But, I’m thinking in this day and age, it’s pretty typical to post good news on social media. It may not be everyone’s style but it’s pretty easy to avoid it if you don’t want to watch.
Just a reminder, though: Once you’ve POSTED the video, please don’t ask for it to be taken down if you later regret it, because we won’t!
Back when I was a child in the dark ages, there was this concept called “showing off”. Basically, it meant engaging in behavior which purposely called attention to oneself. Parents used to discourage it strongly saying things like “stop showing off” and peers used to reinforce the message by calling other kids “show-offs” which was meant to embarrass the one engaging in this kind of behavior. Apparently this notion has gone the way of the dodo.
For many people nowadays, it seems that if there isn’t a social media post complete with photos and video, then whatever happens to you hasn’t really happened. A video of oneself reacting to any kind of news seems to me the epitome of showing off (aka narcissism). Newsflash: many, many kids are getting into colleges across the country at the same time you are. Many, many of them and their families are very happy about it. Your reaction to your good news is no more important to anyone else than theirs is to you. Why on earth do you want to put up a video of yourself celebrating a college acceptance? Do you really think your acceptance is more special than anyone else’s Celebrate in real life with your loved ones who actually care; posting a video is obnoxious, not because it will make others feel bad if if they didn’t get admitted to their dream school, but because it makes you look like a twit. Really.
Silly me; I thought the acceptance to the college of one’s choice was the recognition. And of course, if the school accepting the student isn’t “elite” like “Harvard, Stanford, etc” then I guess that’s not nearly as worthy of celebrating.
God, I’m old.
@joblue With people being more transient these days, maybe someone would like to share their good news with friends and family that are far away. I work in an assisted living facility. I know for a fact that many of my elderly residents love to view things like this. I’m sorry if you think this makes someone a “twit”, to someone it makes them an ideal grandchild.
^^If it’s sent only to a grandparent far away or confined to assisted living, then of course it’s fine (if the grandparent really enjoys the shrieking and running around thing), although I would think the grandparent would prefer a personal visit to share the news if possible. If it’s a public post on FB or CC, then yes it makes them a twit.
A classmate of mine bragged during the fall of senior year, when applications weren’t even due yet, about how great it was going to be in the spring, when he could “spread ALLLLL of his acceptances out on the table and look at them.”
This kind of thing rubs me the same way, personally.
I’m old too and I personally would not be into making or posting a video of an acceptance celebration. But I don’t think it’s right to project all of this onto those who do. Maybe they are just happy and want to share? Maybe they are showing off? But I don’t think we can say for sure and it’s pretty standard for the time we live in. Everything is photographed, filmed and posted. Don’t do it if you don’t like it but sheesh, I’m not a fan of the idea and feel like I have to defend people that do it now. Sort of one of those ‘it’s a free country things.’
I don’t see why you need to click the links of the videos, no one is forcing them down your throat. It isn’t exactly narcissism or showing off (you could argue your request of people not posting acceptance is narcissistic because your wishes are more important than the students’…) but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.