Your S will not get hand-holding at college when it comes to turning in assignments, etc. He has some fine acceptances in hand and a list that reflected a nice spread of COA, likelihood of admissions, etc. You have not failed!
I have a friend whose S went to UCSB in a STEM major and was in the College of Creative Studies program. Was a terrific experience for him. Considering engineering programs are certified under one umbrella, state schools and privates cover much of the same territory. Getting into UMich OOS engineering shows he had a strong app even if he didn’t send the latest SAT score.
And these schools…
Vanderbilt
Carnegie Mellon
Johns Hopkins
Stanford
UCLA
Cal
Northwestern
are reaches for ALL applicants, if for no other reason than the low acceptance rates.