Jack, you’re digging yourself into a hole, ha. The rest of us don’t fall down over some UK chauvinist.
Feminists aren’t why schools are interested in gender balance. And the number of excellently qualified females interested in engineering is jumping.
What OP needs are safety schools. She’s got a 4.0 but we don’t know how competitive her hs actually is or where it is in VA. The top hs in Northern VA throw all bets off for UVA. And she has the 4’s in calc an physics.