<p>Howell, i don't set those kinda standards. I just felt like saying that. I like good looking girls, and all girls of all different races, types, heights and sizes can beautiful, (although i dont like red hair and have yet to seen a good lookin redhead).</p>
<p>So, I haven't bothered to read the 11 pages of responses for this, but personally, don't believe the bs about being aggressive or about being too short or whatever (I'm 5'5" and my boyfriend is 5'8" and I have no problems being attracted to him). The sexiest thing for girls: confidence. Okay, I don't want this to sound like an After School Special, even if it does, but just be yourself, and be secure with yourself. But don't overpower girls by being too cocky. You are possibly 1) coming on too strong or 2) pursuing the wrong girls. But the point is, if you're confident with what you've got, that will attract plenty of qualified girls, often without you really having to pursue them at all.</p>
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<p>I don't think it's a double standard because women almost universally do not date guys who are shorter, and a sizable portion of women will refuse to date guys above a certain standard that's above the average height (6 foot, for example). I've read a survey of about 79 women and only 2 said they would date someone shorter than they.</p>
<p>On the other hand, MOST guys I know do not care much about breast size if at all. You're the first person I've heard admitting to have such a rigorous standard. The point is, women typically care quite a bit about height while guys typically don't care that much about breast size.</p>
<p>Also, there have been multiple criticisms of that in this thread, so it's not like guys are being praised for having a similar standard.</p>
<p>You're missing the point. Body preferences are body preferences.</p>
<p>Smoke djarums. You'll look cool, but you'll develop cancer. It's a fair trade.</p>
<p>It's not about height. It's about game. If guys end up in friendship land, it's their own fault.</p>
<p>The main thing is to not try so hard. Most girls aren't worth you putting your self-respect on the line. Women will tell you its about attraction. If she likes you, you can get away with murder. If she doesn't, she expects you to be on your best behavior. I say you just be yourself and say to hell with what they expect. There's likely very little you can do to make yourself more attractive. Don't ever let them make you think if you kiss up to them and treat them nice that you'll somehow get in good with them.</p>
<p>well, guys shouldn't always say what exactly us girls want to hear. because we catch on to that, and sometimes it sounds insincere.</p>
<p>again, if homeboy was tall and white, he wouldn't have to post this.</p>
<p>But, he can't change that. So get your game up. Tease girls. Don't show weakness. Have confidence. Smile. Dress real fly. Play the numbers game.
Don't fear rejection, and don't get hurt buy it. You don't have a lot to work with, so trust me, you're gonna get rejected a lot. But who cares? Any girl who rejects you ain't worth it. Find women that actually have souls. My 5'4 Asian friend has a hot white girlfriend. He'll never be a player, but so what? He has a sick life a head of him...</p>
<p>My sister's last bf was a 5'3 Guatemelan dude...she didn't notice he was shorter than her untill after she started dating him. When asked if a girl would date a short guy, she'll always say no. But in reality, this can be bypassed.</p>
<p>Also, DON'T ask women for advice. They lie about absolutely everything. You addressed this post to females...they're gonna say some generic B.S. Stop hanging out with girls, if you are. Hang out with alpha dudes who hit on girls and can school you.</p>
<p>I just looked at my ex's facebook profile...I forgot what a dime-piece she was. I beat out my taller better looking friend for her.</p>
<p>The absolute WORST thing you can do is try too hard. Don't say cliche things. It's so effing obvious you're just trying to please us. I can't stand it and I will kick someone to the curb SOO quickly if I feel like they're clingy or trying too hard. Back off, give her some space, and don't put your nose in her business all the time where you don't belong. Don't be too nice either. Then, once again, it seems like you're trying to hard. Act like a normal person who has feelings. Also, don't flirt with a lot of girls at once. It's a real turn-off. One of my guy friends has this really bad habit of, whenever he gets drunk, he starts going crazy on a different girl. It's like everytime he getes drunk he changes his preferences in girls all together. Yeah, I used to love the kid. Once I saw what he has a habit of doing, I began to think he was really quite disgusting.</p>
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<p>Sad but true.</p>
<p>ok so I'm an hs junior [I'm sick and had to cancel my plans tonight and am very very bored so I basically just read this whole damn thread. It was pretty amusing], so you may want to consider that, but otherwise...</p>
<p>I'm very short (~5') and might grow a couple more inches at the most, so basically any guy is taller than me and so that is not at all a preference when it comes to my attraction to guys, haha. (But I think 2-5 inches taller than the girl in moderate heels is what most of my friends would prefer)
But I usually do live in heels (kinds like that other girl, I don't remember who...), I also wear flats when I'm going to be walking around a lot or it just goes with the outfit</p>
<p>Anyway, as for what I prefer in guys, I think the biggest thing is really a strong jawline/contoured face. Out of all of the guys I like, including celebrities, this is the one thing that remains constant.
Other than that, I'm pretty open in terms of hair and eye color. I like intense eye color--like an intense blue or green or whatever, but the particular color doesn't really matter. Nice abs are a bonus...and one of the reasons I tend to like guys who play soccer, they usually have great bodies.
And lastly, accents. I don't know why but I love European accents like no other. </p>
<p>Really though, more important to me in a guy is personality and interests. Intelligence is a big factor, as is having something that he is passionate about. </p>
<p>As for the nice guy/tough guy debate...I'd personally like a little bit of both. I'd love a guy who was a tough guy around everyone else and a nice guy around me. I couldn't stand a guy who'd blow me off purposely, but I wouldn't want him to be clingy either. You've got to have balance.</p>
<p>^I think I'm the perfect guy for you. I'm 5'9, strong jaw line, ripped from lifting/boxing, and hazel eyes. I still live in the inner city (though not as a hard a neighborhood as I'm in Montreal now), so I'm def. a tough guy relative to the average college kid by default. That said, my lady's my queen and I'm very protective in a good way. I'm smart and passionate about my career and already have a spot lined up as an equities trader at a smaller firm in Toronto. At the same time, I'm not all serious and intend on a drinking a 40 with my boys in about 15 min. and hitting up some clubs. I love hip hop, some indie rock, and electronica.</p>
<p>^now that was corny</p>