<p>missypie, I have a couple of thoughts here, both as someone who lived through this as a student, and as a current college employee.</p>
<p>When I was in college, I suffered from attention problems (hyperfocus as well as attention deficiencies) and consequently had a huge problem with time management. As a condition of their paying for my education, my parents required me to submit a letter to each of my professors, every semester, explaining that I authorized my teachers to answer any and all academically-related questions my parents might ask them (grades, attendance, content of papers I’d written, etc). </p>
<p>(To my knowledge, my parents never actually called any professors or deans to ask anything. I think they thought that the threat would be sufficient to keep me on my toes. I graduated, so it must have worked. :))</p>
<p>That was 14 years ago. I’ve been working since 2001 for the same college that currently employs me, and I’ve seen a huge shift in faculty attitudes about parent involvement. Unfortunately, the shift hasn’t been positive.</p>
<p>If your son’s teachers are typical of most college instructors, no amount of waivers or permission letters will <em>compel</em> them to provide information to you, even if the waiver <em>permits</em> them to provide information. There are two basic issues here. For one thing, most colleges vastly overschedule and underpay their faculty, particularly the faculty who teach and advice younger undergraduates, and they often don’t have time to respond to questions from all their students, let alone a student’s parents. </p>
<p>For another thing, it’s difficult for faculty to differentiate between overinvolved helicopter parent situations and situations where a parent is genuinely the right person to help their student succeed. You can, of course, go over a professor’s head (to his department head, his Dean, etc.) if the professor doesn’t respond to your requests, but the administration may not be any more sympathetic than the faculty.</p>
<p>Please understand, I’m not suggesting that you’re helicoptering. I’m suggesting that the attitude of your son’s school’s Disabilities Office (“no information, no way”) indicates that his giving permission to release information might not be sufficient and that you might have a fight on your hands. Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>(yikes, crosspost with InTheBiz!)</p>