<p>Well you’re the one that was talking like the wise old studmuffin telling me I’m going to have many many lonely nights ahead of me. I’m curious as to why you think that. Every guy goes around like a ■■■■■ buying girls drinks at the bar, I’d say most go home alone wouldn’t you agree? The girl you just bought a drink for had four other guys buy her one right before you, and a hundred bought for her in her life, original. I think I’ve done pretty well with my philosophy, better than most even, and I think its largely because of my philosophy, maybe its just my sexiness I donno. That’s where the almost guarantee came from lol.</p>
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<p>i like how you make multiple threads on one topic…</p>
<p>you<em>of</em>eh, unless you know much about the person that you “guarantee” you would do better at bars, you shouldn’t be guaranteeing should you?</p>
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<p>I didn’t guarantee, I said can almost guarantee. I told you I think I do better than most guys, I put you in the most category, maybe a mistake maybe not, hence the almost.</p>
<p>I going to have to side with you<em>of</em>eh here. He’s right, times have changed, women can work and there really is no excuse for us to expect to be paid for. And both partners should pitch in around the house if they both have jobs.</p>
<p>I don’t have a problem if the person who does the asking pays for the first date, that’s just polite. I also think the issue of buying someone a drink in a bar is different. If it is someone you don’t know that is a way to strike up a conversation and that seems fine. That’s different from how the cost in an on going relationship is divided.</p>
<p>Yeah but there’s much more effective and inexpensive ways to strike up a conversation lol I don’t see the point of the drink.</p>
<p>you<em>of</em>eh, again, unless you can take home the most beautiful women in the world evey time you go out to bars you should NOT be guaranteeing anything here. We are not talking about Canadian Asian skanks here, by the way.</p>
<p>again, unless you know the person you are guaranteeing against is, you shouldn’t be guaranteeing anything here.</p>
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<p>of course you dont’, but you will learn as you mature</p>
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<p>Why are you clinging to that statement and quoting it over and over. Clearly you have no other arguments or anything else to say so you’ve resorted to trying to make me look bad. I’ve explained it yet you quote it again, just read and comprehend man. I said I was curious as to why you think I will have many many lonely nights ahead of me, I’d like you to elaborate on that. Present a good argument for your tried and true philosophy and by all means I will drop mine and join the big boys on the winning team.</p>
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<p>How bout ya tell me the point, you’re a wise fellow.</p>
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<p>Not necessarily. This is another area where old traditions are dying and common sense is prevailing. If the couple is young and starting out, OK. If the bride comes from a family of means, OK. But if the couple is older and already financially established or if the groom’s parents have means and the bride’s parents don’t then it doesn’t make sense for the bride’s parents to pay for a wedding.</p>
<p>okay heres the deal. after a couple of dates that you have payed fully for, your should start to look for other options besides just going out for dinner. there are tons of things to do especially at a college. going to parks, sports, sporting events, just relaxing and talking etc. but i agree with everyone else that you should just give her a call and talk to her about it. if shes here to stay then it will not be a problem</p>
<p>also from the OP:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/605110-junior-never-had-girlfriend.html#post1061348748[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/605110-junior-never-had-girlfriend.html#post1061348748</a></p>
<p>and recently:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/963229-engineering-student-girl-question.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/963229-engineering-student-girl-question.html</a></p>
<p>**A message top the OP: </p>
<p>maybe the first thing you should do is get some male friends so that you can discuss this girl stuff with them. This seeking for advice on girls by you on CC has now gone on for at least 2 years.**</p>
<p>to fighterman…dude don’t worry about impressing a girl this usually turns out badly for those who try, you’ll end up sounding or looking like a fool. just beeeeee yourself when you finally talk to her. Ask her about herself and when you find some common ground run with it. Want some great people skills advice? Go read Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, you will learn a lot. no joke</p>
<p>and there are some people on this board that definitely need to stop using their academic work load as an excuse for not having a social life because you definitely don’t start freshman and sophmore year with classes that require so much studying that you can’t meet people/make friends</p>
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<p>Or she’s traditional. And then it’s up to you whether she is long-term material. If a girl insisted on paying, I would probably end it. On the other hand, showing appreciation and offering to pay would be nice.</p>
<p>Some young women I know insist on splitting the bill on initial dates, lest the young man in question thinks that buying her dinner implies a quid pro quo, or return on his investment.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with cheap first dates, either.</p>
<p>Baelor, good point on the “traditional” part…</p>
<p>Yeah. There are a lot of those out there, but it’s unlikely that you will stumble upon them unless you are in those circles. But that is definitely a fourth category – and not one that is an automatic dismissal (like I hope the other three would be).</p>
<p>Baelor, you would be surprised at how many of the “traditional” girls are out there once you are out of college.</p>