finally starting a thread with a guy problem.

<p>some of you may know this already, but i have a crush on this guy who goes to my church. (oh, really.)</p>

<p>he's really good looking and funny and stuff, but i'm just another fat azn. ahhhh life's not fair! haha
i'm gonna go ahead and take back the 'dont know i exist' part because he does know that i do....i think. </p>

<p>what am i supposed to do? should i ask him out (which i have never done before in my life...i mean, asking a guy out) and get rejected and feel all sad? or should i just keep it to myself and possibly regret it? HELP ME.</p>

<p>........
Lol</p>

<p>Well, since you've never had human contact with him other than awkward glances or stares... </p>

<p>Is there any way that you can somehow secure an interaction within the church setting? (By that I mean, use a church activity as some sort of excuse to talk to this character.) </p>

<p>I do not think you should ask him out - as evidenced from your post, it seems that any flat out rejection at this point could only ruin your self esteem (your comment about your looks justifies this). </p>

<p>I would approach with caution and destroy the "Date me" mission as soon as you realize that he 1) ain't all that great, 2) has some other chick, 3) is not at all interested, 4) all of the above. </p>

<p>Take care youngling.</p>

<p>lose weight, get hot.</p>

<p>ask him out to do what? I can see that if you plan an activity and he accepts you would then need to make sure your expectations were appropriate. He may be accepting as a friend who wants to go to a concert or movie or out to eat.....while you arrange and pay. If you can accept that and dream of the friendship becoming a romance then go for it.</p>

<p>^^^jackhammersmit, haha. I don't know what to tell you...but you're young. Chances are you'll find someone else. Besdies, church dating drama isn't worth dealing with. But that's just my opinion.</p>

<p>want<em>a</em>scholarship, just go talk to him! Smile, say hi, talk. See how that goes.</p>

<p>just go talk to him. Don't keep to yourself and regret it, because this is a thousand times worse than getting rejected. If you asked him and if he so happens to reject you, you may feel awful naturally but at least you have gotten a satisfied answer and not keep it to yourself and wondering days and nights for the impossibles.</p>

<p>Oh, jackhammersmit, if only it was that easy. sigh</p>

<p>Approach him and talk about something you two have in common, which I guess could be church, like maybe some church related trip or youth group thing. Don't be nervous cuz if you are, you'll probably get all hyper-like or something and scare the guy off...so just be laid back. If you have something funny to say, say it, show him that you have a good sense of humor and that you're not just some dull girl who stares at him (not saying you do ^_~). Talk about movies and see which movie he's been wanting to see and be like "Hey! I've been wanting to see that one for a while too. Want to go watch it together some time?" and well, hopefully, he'll say yes. If he looks hesitant, then smile and act kinda excited and say "Oh come on, it'll be fun!" in a way that seems as if he rejects your offer, you'll be crushed. If he says no, then he probably already has a girl in mind or is busy or is just an ass =) Good luck babe ;)</p>

<p>want<em>a</em>scholarship, somehow I've always had the notion that you were a male.</p>

<p>Plan a day to hang out together and do something fun. Movies, lunch, whatever you guys both enjoy...</p>

<p>ahhhh i'm not a guy!!!! haha</p>

<p>thnx guys (N GIRLS)</p>

<p>Heh. Sorry. It was probably the way you typed. Then again, I didn't read a lot of your posts.</p>

<p>Just talk to him. Don't go up to him with the intent to ask him out. Spend your time becoming better friends, and then ask him out later, if you still want to. Don't stalk him or anything creepy. Just hang out. Try to get paired up for heading an activity at your Church or something like that. It's a great excuse to hang out.</p>

<p>Finally, if you do ask him out, and he does say no, it's nothing personal. Sometimes a person just isn't attracted to someone else for no rhyme or reason. Just think about all of your wonderful guy friends who you love but would never go out with. A rejection does not mean he thinks you're ugly or dumb or annoying or anything else. I can think of tons of girls who I think are great and beautiful people whom I would never date. It's fine to be upset over a rejection, but don't let it affect you in any way.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

<p>Just act like his friend first. =] Get to know him a bit better. Once you are comfortable about hanging out with him. x] Ask him out! =D Goodluck girl!</p>

<p>...I always thought you're a guy too :) </p>

<p>I used to be in the EXACT same situation; I chose not to do anything, then I learned that he has a girlfriend already so now I'm really glad about that. Besides, I always felt I went to church for spiritual purposes and I don't want anything to change that. Now I see and talk to him occasionally, he makes me laugh and I see him as a brother in Christ, and that's enough for me.</p>

<p>PS) There is no such thing as a fat asian, with all that rice... -_-;;</p>

<p>what are you talking about?</p>

<p>Imma fat asian.</p>

<p>There is such a thing as too much rice ; )</p>

<p>what you are asian?! i cant believe it ... i always imagined u as like a scrawny little white girl. i dont mean to say scrawny meanly- its just that KissMeKate said she was small and i am always mixing up you young'ns lol so i thought u were small too. and small= scrawny to me for some reason. and i dont know where the white person thing came from so dont ask lol</p>

<p>I'm Asian and one of the postulates I had to recite as a child was No Asian is fat... ever. Therefore, I don't believe you are obese in any way, shape, or form. Have more self-confidence :)</p>

<p>I didn't even notice that she is Asian. I've always thought of her as a white boy.</p>