Finals then next semester. What to do to not mess it up like I did this semester.

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<p>I have finals tomorow and tuesday, and then I am done with my first semester of college. Here is the thing, I didn't make any friends, haven't gone to do anything. Now lets take the obvious suggestions out of the way shall we.</p>

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<li>Join a club/activity. Guess what, since the last topic I made on here, I went and looked at all the activities that my commcoll has, none of them intrested me, and it seems silly to put up with something that doesn't intrest you in hopes of making friends, for they will want to talk about the activity where as you dislike/hate it. Do you really like talking about something you hate to someone who loves what you hate? I don't think so. I used to play the cello, but only because I was good at it and it was an easy A. And I am taking the graphic design course so joining the "Art Club" would be overkill.(And if I know one thing about art its that if you have to much you start to dislike it)</li>
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<p>2.Dorm mate. I am going to a community college thats about 5 miles from my house. I am still at home. There are apartments across for the CC but they are horridly expensive. I mean, hell, say that I would of been able to be accepted to a university. Its bad enough they overcharge you for the education, but room and board on top of that. Hell no, and I am not going to do it at a CC. On top of that, the apartments are not owned by the college, but separate so scholarships to not cover.</p>

<p>With that out of the way, what can I do to make friends this next semester. I tried talking to people and being friendly and helpful w/o being overbearing and the same thing happened to me that happened in HS, everyone became friends with everyone else, but not me. Doesn't help that I am the token black guy, but then again that really shouldn 't matter.</p>

<p>Being in the Graphic Design\Advertisment\Commercial Arts career is about being able to network with other people, get connection so that you can get a job. This is why so many people who are artist fail to get a job in GD. Its not because their art sucks it because for every 2 normal shy, quiet, art kid there is one art kid that can socialize. I don't want to spend two years of my life at a CC to just end up not being able to get a job because I am not socialable enough, and on top of that I don't want to spend un-fun years at a college.</p>

<p>So, what can I do?</p>

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<p>I don’t know how big your CommCol is or how different it is from a larger university, but I find that the easiest way to make friends is on the first few days of classes because you’re all on the same page – no one really knows anyone else so everyone’s really open to everyone else. </p>

<p>On a side note…Do you watch Community?</p>

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<p>This is the one I go to. [Hawkeye</a> Community College](<a href=“http://www.hawkeyecollege.edu%5DHawkeye”>http://www.hawkeyecollege.edu)</p>

<p>And I figured everyone being on page one would help to, but it didn’t. At all.</p>

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<p>bump for answers.</p>

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<p>Look man its not about making friends. If you’re interesting and fun you’ll make friends without trying. So become interesting and fun. There’s no step by step guide or anything. Just put your natural talents to use. Ask yourself what it is you have to offer someone that nobody else can, then OWN that thing.
For example if you’re witty/charming/observant keep practicing until you can have a fun conversation with any random stranger (this is what I did). If you’re athletic go out onto the basketball court or whatever and try to join or set up a game. But you have to be the one to make everything happen, you have to make the calls, you have to organize everything, </p>

<p>And imo friendship = shared experiences. People told you to join clubs because that involves going out and doing stuff with people. Like say you go to a protest and get arrested. How can you not be friends with someone you shared a cell with?</p>

<p>Edit: Forgot to say it takes a long time to change. Don’t expect fast results. If you’re not going to go 100% don’t bother. Just sit in your house and dream of all that could be instead of doing it. Also thanks. You helped me in a way too. Good luck.</p>

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<p>That is just it. I am none of those things you listed. Nor do I want to be arrested ever in my life and I could easily not be friends and hate someone who got me arrested. As for clubs I don’t see the point in going and doing something that isn’t fun that I will not enjoy. I wouldn’t join a sports club, playing football in HS ruined sports for me. Nor would I join a Car Club, building and mechanics of cars does not intrest me. And with the offer to others what you do not have, I don’t really have anything. Everything I think is cool, I already do.</p>

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<p>Also I need to know how to get to parties, Ive never been to one and it looks intresting.</p>

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<p>To get invited to things, just start talking with random people you see. If you eat at some sort of cafeteria, just ask someone if you can sit next to him/her. Then start talking about what classes you’re taking. After that dries up, ask about plans for the weekend. No matter what response you get, be interested. Then you can milk that for a while. Finally, say that you’re not sure what you’re doing yet, and that you’re waiting for something to come up. If someone wants to invite you, they will.</p>

<p>This is not a formula, and it won’t always work. But you don’t need to try very hard to make things happen.</p>

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<p>Are you in a large metropolitan area? If so, try ■■■■■■■■■■. People create groups to attract those of similar interests and they get together to do fun things. You can find groups on everything from photography to snowboarding to chess to just hanging out and socializing . . . You get the idea. If there aren’t any groups you’re interested in on MeetUp, you could try starting your own group.</p>

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<p>Well I don’t really see that many people. The way the Graphic Design course works is there is class A and class B. But we see 3 different teachers throughout the day. So its the same people all day. And I’ve talked to them but its been a semester, if I haven’t made atleast an aquaintance to have someone to talk to throughout the day, thus far I doubt doing anything else would help. Plus I am hoping next semester’s classes have new people.</p>

<p>So really the only time I see people my age is then, I go home for lunch since I don’t really know where the cafeteria is andon top of that. Burger King or Sonic>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>anything a school could produce. I have a job, but its at a mom and pop pharmacy, so its really just 50+, no cute girls come in or anything. Not like a big black guy could get a job where the cute girls come in frequently and not stand out like a sore thumb…</p>

<p>And no I live in Iowa in a town that has 60,000 people. Not that big, on top of that it has the highest criminal rate in the state, I really don’t think I want to meet people online and then get mugged.</p>

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<p>Plus I just checked my area on that site. 4 groups. Athesists, moms, mom/kid playdate, and yoga…weak sauce.</p>

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<p>lol I’m sorry, but that’s hilarious that all you got from your search was athesist, mom, mom/did playdate, and yoga! he he </p>

<p>Sorry I don’t really know what advice to give, but how about being a little more positive, I mean I understand the clubs don’t interest you, but it is a cool way to meet people. With my friends here I feel like I only met them through dorming or clubs, so your options are limited. </p>

<p>And then you complain about the food, but the cafeteria would be your second best option. Food makes things a more social environment. Also does your school hold any events? Go to them.</p>

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<p>A. Turn off the computer
B. Go Outside</p>

<p>The rest will follow.</p>

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<p>So I have to do the things that I don’t want to do, to get the things I want. Meh…</p>