<p>I want to agree with the poster who suggests that it’s important to consult the mom’s divorce lawyer about the possibility of requiring the dad to pay for part of college after the age of 18 in Pa. Posters who are saying the dad has no obligation – we don’t know that for sure. It’s a legal question. And if the mom and dad are not yet divorced, this is the time for the lawyer to get on top of this issue. </p>
<p>OP, my heart goes out to you. This is not a good situation and it’s got to be painful to see your dad acting like such a jerk toward you, more so since he promised one thing and is doing something entirely different. The bit with the asthma medication is particularly awful. So no, you are not at all crazy, and it’s not fair. But that said, please don’t let your feelings about what’s happening affect your overall emotional state too much or allow yourself to become embittered. Your best move now really does seem to be to get very practical and find a way to pay for the next three years of college without him, to be as independent as possible. If your mom’s divorce lawyer can negotiate so your dad will pay for part of college under the laws of your state, great. If he comes up with more than four months of board, great. But unfortunately, you can’t count on him to keep his promises, and the less dependent on him you are, the better.</p>