<p>I agree that checking with the mother’s attorney is a good idea, but the OP should be cautious how to approach the dad if there are some things he has to pay according to the law. Sometimes you can be so right you are wrong. If dad is paying more altogether willingly, jumping on him for something he is not paying that he should could end up with a net loss for the OP. I see this happen so often in divorce. I knew a dad and step mom who would buy the kids’ entire wardrobe and pay a whole lot of extras, only to get court ordered for something a lot less. They made the decision to just pay for what was court ordered and the kids ended up losing out.</p>