Hey! Love all the comments and clarifications here, I just wanted to add a little as a current student.
The cross country teams are full of good people, and my friends on both the men and women teams have a lot of fun and feel connected to each other. It seems like a great culture (in my opinion perhaps the best culture of the athletic teams, though that’s just my outside perspective). If she chose to do cross country, I think she’d find a strong community. I havs a friend who joined sophomore year looking for that, and was really happy that he did.
One of my friends is the president of an org called RunVassar. It’s a bunch of people run for fun, with varying levels of seriousness (but all super super friendly). Around 10 of them did a half marathon this spring… some want to do a full marathon in the fall, others will do a half marathon in the fall, others will just participate in a 5k fundraiser they do every fall… and many others will join for a run or two each week to build community and hang out. It’s lots of fun, and might be less commitment than the cross country team. More student-organzied. They do picnics and stuff too. A few days ago they all ran to the water hole and went swimming together. Fun stuff
Some of the people on athletic teams latch onto the teams, and rarely leave that social circle. That’s not everyone, and every team is different… but there are ways that it can also limit other social circles/ open time. Some of my friends have regretted this, and stopped doing athletic teams for this reason. Something for her to think about… though I would also stress to her that she shouldn’t view whatever she decides to do as a “four year commitment.” Things change
Agree that she should reach out to the coach herself. I’d also encourage her to follow the Instagrams for both the xc team and runvassar, and to just dm them too to talk to current students. The coach should also be able to connect her to students. I get the sense that this is normal and know that the runvassar people would be happy to chat.
I think she’ll start receiving more emails soon. Vassar is still sorting out who exactly will be in the class, I imagine… but stuff will come soon. I also did EDII, and it took a while for all the paperwork and stuff to start coming in through my Vassar email. But it will!
There are many other ways to find community at Vassar though. I appreciated having an entire week for orientation, where you spend a lot of time with your student fellow group (other kids on your hall) and entire house doing activities. Plus, there’s the org (club) fair, and you start finding other communities on campus.