finding friends at Cal?

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<p>Hi, I am an international student who transferred from a community college in SoCal area. Most of people that I met in college decided to stay local, leaving me the only one thats transferring to Cal in the NoCal area. I find it rather difficult to find new friends to hangout with. I met a couple of people during CalSo, in discussions, but it seems to me that they already have a set of friends here and don't really bother to count me into their circle of friends. I hangout with some people that I know, but I realize that we're just acquaintance. </p>

<p>Most other international students usually hang out with "their own people", and I am not trying to be racist, they just tend to prefer to hang out with people that speak their own language. I personally find that limiting, and in addition, people from my country has already established their own group since they transferred from the same college. </p>

<p>Most locals that I know already have their own set of friends from high school, college, or connections. Most people tell me to join clubs but since I have to declare my major this semester, I decided I have no time for that. </p>

<p>I am NOT socially awkward! I promise. I always try to talk to people in class and everything. But it always stops there. I don't hangout with the people that I talk in class.
It gets pretty lonely here at Cal, what should I do?</p>

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<p>if you have no time for a club, how do you think you’ll have time to socialise a decent amount?</p>

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<p>^^^I agree. Making friends means you go out of your way to invite them to things and take time out of your schedule to ask them to hang out. You can’t just bank on the idea that maybe they’ll ask YOU to hang out. Friends and having a social life takes time, and you have to be willing to give up that time to do so.</p>

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<p>I do hangout with people, I just cant handle joining a club right now :0 I think theres a difference.</p>

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<p>Try living in a co-op?</p>

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<p>If you do hang out with people, just keep it up and stay patient. It’s slow at first, but as long as you’re keeping in touch with the people you meet they’ll grow to be more than acquaintances. Fulfilling friendships have to start somewhere.</p>

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<p>You don’t need to go to frat parties or any parties to make friends, that’s a ridiculous notion. Just ask people out to lunch, don’t think you’re being annoying because you’re not, most people enjoy being asked out for lunch. If you’re already hanging out with people, initiate more outings, don’t think you have to be invited, you can be the inviter!</p>