<p>Hey CC, well I'm a freshman in college and I want to find a good balance with academics and a social life. But so far I'm two weeks in and I feel soo deprived of friends and social interaction because my roommate who's really clingy isn't interested in anything... in fact she just likes sleeping and going on the computer, and I have to act like her parent. But anyway I'm really want to go to a party but I have no idea how, like in my hometown (NYC) I'd just go to a club and have fun with friends, but I'm in a really rural area now with nothing but house parties which I have no idea to even approach... I have no developed group of friends who like having fun, no connections, and I just want to dance and not get *****faced. </p>
<p>I'm a girl, so maybe I can just walk in, but I wouldn't even know how to start. Like what do I wear, do I have to be invited, etc. I'm just really new to this kind of nightlife, and I'm so socially frustrated.</p>
<p>Surely you would know someone who is going to one of the parties, if you can tag along with just one person you will be fine.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about what to wear and such, people are often too ****faced to care. Every one I’ve been to here in my first year has been great, so has the vibe of it. I’d just get in there now before you start regretting missing out on opportunities.</p>
<p>Are you good looking? If you’re not beat up looking you can probably just walk in. It sounds like you are too attached to your roommate. If she’s sleeping all the time let her sleep and go out with people in your hall.</p>
<p>All I’m saying is be careful and watch your drink. You shouldn’t get wasted with people you don’t know well. I was raped by “my friend” my first semester of college. I met this guy and was hanging out with him at a party (both guys and girls). He slipped a drug in my drink.</p>
<p>Bring a friend with you. I’m not saying don’t party, I’m just saying party smarter.</p>
<p>You can almost definitely just walk in. SOMEONE has to be going to a party, just ask to tag along. It’s not even weird since it’s the beginning of your freshman year.</p>
<p>Some girls wear dresses, some wear skirts, some wear jeans. Wear a flowy, cute top. It doesn’t matter too much what you’re wearing…just look at the people around you and see what they wear. At my school if you’re going to a party you don’t need to be completely dolled up.</p>
<p>Well first off it is not your obligation to take care of your roommate. Yes it is good to maintain a healthy relationship with her, but you will not change her so don’t try. It’s not your job to change her and you shouldn’t let other people stop you from living your life to the fullest. You should invite her to your parties in the future and if she declines then you go out anyway. </p>
<p>House parties are about networking. They are not about dancing. They are about spending time with people you enjoy to be around. Some of them are about getting drunk and hooking up. Find someone you enjoy hanging out with and mention that you want to go out. Maybe they will know a house party. </p>
<p>I know a lot of guys that search frantically for girls to bring to parties. Not all of them are creeps, but most of them are. You can judge who you feel comfortable around. Just have fun in college. No one cares if you get trashed here. Just be safe about it and make sure your grades are in order.</p>