<p>I can't WAIT to go back!!! Last year at this time I was scheduling to make sure my credits would transfer just in case, but my attitude is so different this year. I'm actually technically in college now (at a local CC for the summer taking a full load of credits), but it's going to be so great to get away from my parents again, see all my friends again, and have a kick(well you know the word) time again!!! College is AMAZING!!!</p>
<p>I think we all miss the closeness and intimacy of living so close to all of our friends. Not having to worry about how somebody's getting home, or what their curfew is. College life is also more egalitarian: you don't need a car and a lot of connections to have fun because you can just drop in on any dorm party and make new friends just like that.</p>
<p>I feel exactly the same, nbachris. I think the whole time I was at school (I'm the only one from my HS that goes there :)) I saw my old high school friends, like, twice (and one of the times I brought my best friend from my new school and another good friend met us there for a bit). The only way we even communicated was the occasional Facebook wall post/message or the same thing on Myspace, and there are only three people from HS that I can even stand to be around anymore :/</p>
<p>And yeah, all of the cliques that went to the local universities (A&M, UT Tyler, SFA, etc) or community colleges (Tyler Junior, Panola, ETCC, etc) are very much still way too interested in themselves and only themselves. </p>
<p>In fact, I'm really the only one from my group that isn't overly dependent on the old HS friendships. One of my best friends from high school even transferred to SFA...which somehow led people to ask me if I was transferring or staying at my school? That confused me...why would I transfer just because she did, anyway?</p>
<p>So yeah, I'm counting down the days until I can run away to Louisiana again :)</p>
<p>For NBA Chris and others: these feelings upon returning home for the first time have been happening for generations, so there's nothing wrong. Those who really bonded with their college and college life in general are the ones who feel this way, while those who had a tougher time turn to old friends. Also, don't assume that your old friends, who seem to be hanging out, are enjoying it as much as you think. </p>
<p>Many other factors go into this first-summer-home difficulty. One may be where you stood in the "hierarchy" of high school and within your social group. Especially if you were a follower or on-the-fringe type, you won't be content to fill this role anymore. Another may be in a shifting of interests. Yes, maturity is part of it as well, although you cannot assume that your high school peers are less mature than you just because they choose to hang out together.</p>
<p>For those who absolutely love their college, the summer after freshman year is tough. Most find summer jobs/internships elsewhere for subsequent summers, and never return home for more than a few weeks at a time. This alienation is a mechanism for allowing you to strike out on your own in the future. My guess is that you will be more mobile in your career, and your friends who still like to hang out with the same people will be those who settle near home.</p>
<p>Yeah, I definitely understand. That's why I'm at my college for the summer!</p>
<p>Momwaitingfornew, I completely agree with you :)</p>
<p>momwaitingfornew, you hit the nail on the head. I'm really bored at home, and i don't plan on spending any more summers here, nor do i plan to settle near home later on.</p>
<p>its natural things change, just reminds you sometimes that high school sucks even though you enjoyed it and college is much different</p>
<p>punkdudeus- LOL yeah pretty much. Last year I whined with all of my strength and I got out of it. Sort of. My parents went to China on a mission trip without me for a week and the church camp was during then (It was a high school trip too so I didn't wanna go) I just.. didn't go when the time came and my parents couldn't force me because they weren't here. haha.</p>
<p>Also the buildings lot of church camps use in Korea tend to have open showers. Which means no curtains. Everybody's naked in one giant room with lots of showerheads. NO way I'm showering in there so that also means no showering for liek a week unless I shower with my clothes on (which I might have to after awhile)</p>
<p>I am so glad I'm living on my own right now. I'm still missing school terribly and basically counting down the days til I go back, but at least I'm not stuck in a house with my family all summer. However, I'm 3000 miles away from home, and about 1500 miles away from school, so I still feel very out of place. When I first got here, I was crying myself to sleep at night because I missed the comfort of school and the feeling of home and safety that it provides. I'm better now, but I really really want to get back as soon as possible. (Which isn't until August 20).</p>
<p>I'm glad I'm not at home, though. I have basically lost touch with all my friends from HS, and being at home for two weeks over X-mas break was bad enough. Next summer, I'll be home for the majority of the time, but I'm also going to spend a few weeks in Europe with my mom, which will hopefully break up the monotony, as she's the only family member I can stand for a longer period of time.</p>
<p>thank goodness for summer school and internships</p>
<p>My dad's military and we ended up living in Germany for the last 2 years I was in high school. But because the high school was on a military base, everyone was from different places in the states and pretty much everyone went to a state school of wherever they were from, but I went off to school in Boston. Then, after this school year was over, I went back to Germany for ten days before my family moved to Texas. And now I'm friendless hahaha. I'm not sure which situation is worse, but I'm tooootttaaallly ready to get back to school haha</p>
<p>I think it's better to be friendless because when you come to friends that were definitely your friends before, and aren't so much anymore...it's hard</p>
<p>This school's my 10th school anyways, so it's not really too big of a deal anymore</p>
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<p>Just goes to show you how shallow the concept of "popularity" is. You can have all "friends" in the world, but after making some real connections in college, you come back home and realize that there was no substantial relationships in high school at all, save a few.</p>
<p>Not that I'm bitter or anything, because I realize the difference between high school (a bunch of people with varying directions in life seeing each other for a few hours a week) and college (a bunch of people with relatively common, ambitious goals who live together 24/7).</p>