<p>So College has started for me for the past week and a half. I have been going to classes for the past week and a half and I still don't know anyone.</p>
<p>I talk to some people on my floor and I talk to my roommates, but that is about it. When I go to eat, I sit in the cafeteria by myself without anyone to talk to. I invite my roommates to come and eat with me, but they usually go eat when I have classes. I have also gone to 3 club meetings but I don't really know anyone there. I am afraid that I am going to be a loner throughout college lol. What if I keep eating by myself for the next couple of years? I don't want to be known as the werid kid that has no friends lol. So far all I have done is gone to class/study in the libarary/gone to club meetings/and sat alone in the schools cafeteria for meals. Most other kids I see in the cafeteria, are usually sitting with kids they made friends with. My classes are big 250 kids in my class, so I doubt I will make friends there. What should I do? Is this normal for the first couple of weeks? When does it stop being normal? </p>
<p>I don't know why people say clubs meetings is the way to meet people, the clubs I joined, only meet once a month.</p>
<p>Sit with people at the cafeteria and just start talking. Knock on every door in your dorm and introduce yourself. Just talk to everybody you see.</p>
<p>The thing is, I haven’t had many conversations with people who weren’t a part of my floor/or my roommates, I have only talked to 6-10 random people (people not on my floor or my rommmates) in 2 weeks.</p>
<p>I pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people, but once I know someone, I can easily strike up conversations. I am not a big fan of just going up to random people. lol.</p>
<p>Its a lot easier making friends in high school for many reasons. High schools tend to be smaller, classes are smaller, you have a set lunch time when everyone eats, so you can sit with people you know a little bit, and get to know them better.</p>
<p>People on my floor have already been to frat parties, i don’t know how they know people in frats in less than 2 weeks of college or how they found out where parties are. I guess the only way they knew where the parties are, is if someone random came up and told them about the parties.</p>
<p>haha similar to me except i have around 5-6 people i know from community college at my school. idk who really cares too much? Your going to college to learn. If you have a decent gpa, who really cares how many friends you had in college. Its tough though bc I couldn’t imagine not knowing anyone when I transferred to a school because that would really suck and i would have to meet people in order to have friends. good luck though and be social (unlike me)</p>
<p>You have to give it time, you know. It may seem like everyone already knows each other intimately, but unless they’re old friends, I highly doubt they really know who it is they’re socializing with. Just take it slow, find people you can REALLY befriend for life, and enjoy your time at college while keeping up your grades. I know it’s been said…but you’re not in college to make friends! You’re in college to pave the way for your future and learn more about yourself. You’ll find some interesting people along the way, and maybe even attend a party or two, but don’t feel pressured to be a social butterfly if by nature you simply are not one.</p>
<p>The thing is its easier to do well in school if you have friends, man is a social animal, as a result having friends provides an outlet from academics, so you don’t burn out.</p>
<p>Its also easier to push your self to do well in school, in the long run, when you have a balance between a social life and academics, so you don’t burn out, and if your friends are also academically motivated, than it becomes even easier to push yourself.</p>
<p>Make dates for lunch and dinner, etc…Sit down with people who are your ‘type’ and just flat out tell them you are new. If you have had this trouble in the past, head immediately to the school counseling services and tell them you are having trouble making friends and feeling lonely and isolated. Most importantly, though, just remember that it takes time to develop “friendships” and right now you are in the acquaintanceship stage and it will get better over time. Keep going to the clubs that interest you, too…the people who aren’t really interested will start to find other time fillers and you will eventually find yourself with people who have your same interests.</p>
<p>I’m a transfer and haven’t really met many people yet either. I did set up a time to have lunch with someone I met online. And she’ll probably introduce me to a few people.</p>
<p>I also plan on getting a job asap and volunteering. I always meet a lot of people that way.</p>
<p>Making friends in large lectures is hard but I try to sit in the same spot every day and work up the courage (I’m a bit shy also) to say hi to the people next to me and try to strike up a conversation. I haven’t become best friends with anyone like this but its nice to be social. </p>
<p>It does take time though. I’m not really worried yet. If I still have no friends by like the second month, then I’ll worry. :P</p>
<p>^ collegeboss, can I get a copy of that PM too? haha</p>
<p>I’m not a night person - need sleep to function properly, so parties, although they seem like fun, just don’t work for me. When I get tired after a certain time, I can’t function socially, even on a basic level.</p>
<p>The thing is, I’m at what’s supposed to be a “nerd” school (or so I thought). But I see so many groups of people on my floor heading off to parties all the time and feel quite out of it. </p>
<p>I’m not homesick/depressed (yet) - I have clear and focused goals that I want to get out of college, but like someone else said, people need social outlets to make sure they don’t burn out. The problem is that most night activities that people would consider fun, are more like energy sappers for me. </p>
<p>So far college is OK, and I don’t see it getting any worse. But it’s just not the super-freaking-awesome experience that everyone makes it out to be. Any advice?</p>
<p>It will become that over time, I am sure. It’s still early. I am with you about parties, that’s not for me, I am into smaller gatherings earlier in the day. That will come with closer friendships, which take time to develop. Have you met anyone on your floor yet? I am going to invite a few girls over to watch a movie or something on Sunday, we have all talked a bit having bumped into each other in the halls and they live right by me so if they aren’t busy I think they’ll go for it. I am lucky enough to have been put on a floor that is predominately freshmen and sophomores and they are all itching to meet new people.</p>
Keep going to the clubs that interest you, too…the people who aren’t really interested will start to find other time fillers and you will eventually find yourself with people who have your same interests.</p>
That will come with closer friendships, which take time to develop. Have you met anyone on your floor yet? I am going to invite a few girls over to watch a movie or something on Sunday, we have all talked a bit having bumped into each other in the halls and they live right by me so if they aren’t busy I think they’ll go for it. I am lucky enough to have been put on a floor that is predominately freshmen and sophomores and they are all itching to meet new people.</p>