<p>I feel like among my fraternity and among a bunch of other people at this school, I'm known for always being seen alone, going out to clubs alone and getting wasted. The worrysome part is I think I'm seen as having no friends. How can I fix this reputation?</p>
<p>Be seen with people, or stop caring? Are you sure people actually think that of you, or is this just an insecurity in yourself that you are projecting?</p>
<p>like I said, I also worry I’m notorious among my frat for getting really drunk at parties and thats how they think of me. None of them ever want to hang out, I mean perhaps because none of them ever knew me before October nor did or do I have any classes with them. But whenever I try to get them to hang out, no one wants to. I only get invited to the stuff everyone gets invited to. Not to individual friend-group events. And they see me alone all the time. How can I fix this?</p>
<p>There are also a bunch of other people from my old dorm who know me in this way, and a group of girls in my old dorm I would always talk to when wasted, and who knew of me because my old roommates hated me, tho they were nice to me in person, I think they were teasing me.</p>
<p>don’t most frat brothers like getting drunk anyway? I know it’s a stereotype, but those don’t form out of thin air.</p>
<p>dude</p>
<p>i told you a long time ago, you have a personality flaw you need to work on</p>
<p>dont expect external things to fix you</p>
<p>you have to fix yourself</p>
<p>which means, you have to CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR, and how YOU are</p>
<p>dont worry about your reputation too much, just focus on being a better person and trust that a better reputation will follow</p>
<p>start by not getting wasted as a social crutch</p>
<p>you need to learn how to have fun without it, so then you wont be dependent on it and have the “socially-inept-alcoholic-who-gets-wasted” reputation</p>
<p>your behavior changes will require willpower, so dont expect them to happen by themselves</p>
<p>its up to you</p>