<p>As a parent who has 2 boys that played competitive contact sports. I have to say, I am with you…one concussion in rugby and they would be out of there.</p>
<p>The reason why, is the limited knowledge I have of rugby they really have very little protective gear.</p>
<p>Our eldest was a Jr Olympian, National and State Champ for TKD, but those kids are padded up, plus they really have strict rules regarding head shots.</p>
<p>Our youngest is the FB player and the helmet he wears compared to rugby is so different. I have lived in 5 different states + the UK and I have yet to see a hs that allows rugby. I am not saying there aren’t schools that have it, I am just wondering from a school insurance POV they could have it.</p>
<p>Now for the update regarding our DS’s school.</p>
<p>1st off. Thank you all for your thoughts, wishes and advice. It really has been a source of comfort and guidance for bullet and I.</p>
<p>To answer the question about grief counselors. They were on site at the school Monday when it was announced. They will be there for this entire week. From what has been told to me by the school there are 2 counselors. This is a small hs., for PWC. They have sent 2 because they understand that the athletes not only knew him, but now they want to make sure as athletes they address their unique issues…i.e. playing contact sports. I give them a hats off to this, because for some of the athletes there is now that fear of injury which kids need to express. </p>
<p>Next, our DS came home last night after practice and informed of us/me of a couple of things, which I am trying to process mentally right now.</p>
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<li>The school will be busing the entire football team tomorrow for the wake that is occurring during school hours.</li>
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<p>Bullet and I discussed this, neither one of us are feeling at ease over this. </p>
<p>It is a 6 and a 1/2 dozen issue. Maybe it is good because it will give the kids closure, maybe it is bad because it is emotionally hard at any age to attend a wake.</p>
<p>I will be attending and be there for our DS. This is the 1st funeral he has ever attended, and I just want to be there to catch him if he needs it.</p>
<p>I don’t like the idea of the school busing the kids. I respect that they want to give support to the family, but I think the parents of the students should go with them. I don’t think kids on a team should feel they should get on a bus because they are a team member. Emotionally, the kids will go because it is for the team, I just don’t know if mentally they are prepared for what they are walking into. </p>
<p>Again, it is an emotional wrangle within my own head. I know our DS is not emotionally ready, he has no comprehension of what this will be like and I feel the pressure might be too much during the day…i.e. watching the clock until he has to get on that bus.</p>
<p>He knows I will be there, but I also know him, seeing me will give him comfort, but this will be very hard on him. He will be breaking inside while trying to hold it on the outside.</p>
<p>2 hours later he will be on the field. I know our DS, while he is on the sidelines he will be thinking of Austin, the minute he has to get in the stance it will be all football. However, that is still hard to watch as a parent.</p>
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<li> The school has made me so proud as a parent. It is sad that something so horrific has to happen to understand how much the school loves your child.</li>
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<p>The school has asked all students in honor of Austin to wear the school colors on Friday. The football field was painted yesterday with his number. </p>
<p>I love the fact that the cause of his death is not an issue, they lost a student and they want to acknowledge that loss.</p>
<p>I think for kids this does give them comfort and reduces the stigma of suicide.</p>
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<li>Our DS is in denial. I had a long conversation with him last night, but he still refuses to accept that it was suicide. On Friday night when he got the concussion, Austin and him were joking in the locker room as they suited up. Our DS just cannot accept that someone joking around, someone known in the school to be jovial would take his life.</li>
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<p>I know there are 5 stages of death and denial is one of them. Bullet and I as parents will now just have to wait for him to get to the acceptance stage.</p>
<p>When I talked to DS about the suicide last night and asked why he thought it wasn’t a suicide, he said because if it was his brother wouldn’t have been at school today.</p>
<p>Austin’s parents decided to allow his younger brother to return to school. His brother believed that would be what Austin wanted. Our DS being in denial believes it supports the reason that he died was a result from the concussion and he was not in his right mind set. He sees the concussion as the cause of his actions.</p>