<p>i honestly think you’re better off living on campus and just being strong in your convictions</p>
<p>Maybe this is just my school, but I don’t think so:
There seems to be more partying in the off-campus apartments near the school than in the dorms. After all, there aren’t RAs there.
Definitely do substance-free housing if that’s an option.</p>
<p>I agree. It seems off-campus housing is a bit rowdier than on-campus (at least at my school.)</p>
<p>If it’s your apartment and you control what goes on, then you can make it as drug, alcohol and other free.</p>
<p>high horse lol…but seriously, of those sort of things are that important to you, then go for the off-campus life.</p>
<p>You sound more intense than a Puritan, loosen up a little amigo.</p>
<p>You sound more intense than a Puritan, loosen up amigo.</p>
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So do I, especially when I’m drinking.</p>
<p>Is it possible he’s a ■■■■■?</p>
<p>^have you been on the high school life section here? Just look at some of the posts kids make about drinking and drugs. They make it seem as bad as murder.</p>
<p>Ok, first things first, please get off your moral high horse. It’s fine if you don’t feel comfortable drinking or doing drugs…a lot of people don’t. But once you start judging people for their personal choices, they’re going to start judging you. </p>
<p>For your own sake, don’t start freshman year as “that lame kid.” If you start off the year trumpeting your “high personal standards” (thus implying that others have low standards), a lot of people are going to dislike you, and trust me, you don’t want that when you’ve gotta spend 4 years with them. I have friends who are teetotalers and are still popular and social because they don’t judge others for their choices. </p>
<p>As for living off-campus, you’re already going to be excluding yourself from some parts of the social scene by teetotaling, so living off-campus as a freshman would pretty much kill your social life altogether. Dorms are going to have LESS partying, not more…ask around and find out which dorms (if you have a choice) are known for being quieter. Also check out substance-free housing. Freshmen have RAs who are going to be cracking down on big, noisy parties. </p>
<p>So if it’s noise/mess you’re worried about, your RAs will be taking care of that. If the presence of alcohol or sex somewhere in your dorm bothers you, you might want to rethink the maturity issue before heading off to college. It’s one thing if another’s habits actively interfere with your life (ie being habitually sexiled or living w/ a roomie who has loud parties on Tuesdays). It’s another altogether if you’re bothered by choices that don’t affect you at all.</p>
<p>I’m not sure where you guys are getting the idea that he’s judging other people. He only made one post (hasn’t replied to your accusations yet) and it’s rather hard to determine his attitude when all you’ve got is some text.</p>
<p>For example, I don’t do any of the things that he mentioned either, but really couldn’t care less if other people do (as long as they’re not in my way). Trying to stop people from using drugs is never going to work and a waste of my tax money…but that’s for another thread.</p>
<p>It’s hard to tell who’s doing the judging here..</p>
<p>srunni:</p>
<p>OP is implying that others hold themselves to a “lower standard” because they drink/smoke/have sex/etc. That is judging other people. The OP should not have mentioned anything about “holding himself to a higher standard” because that simply is not the issue. The issue is that, for one reason or another, the OP is uncomfortable with drinking/smoking/having sex/etc.</p>
<p>I have a number of straight edge firends and they all tend to be egomaniacal hypocrites. You’re going to have to lose the attitude that you’re better and smarter than everyone if you want to succeed in college. That said, you aren’t going to be able to totally avoid the drinking. I suppose you can go in an apartment but it will be difficult to meet people. You should just go in a dorm and meet people. If you don’t want to do that type of stuff you can always say no.</p>
<p>“I have a number of straight edge firends and they all tend to be egomaniacal hypocrites.”</p>
<p>How are you meaning the word “friends” here? Are you enjoying spending time with them? I’m asking because my D is like the OP sounds (I think she gets a little judgemental when she is anxious in new social situations, which I think is better then getting drink whe socially anxious, but that’s only in retrospect), and I’m a little worried, but she tends to be fine at finding her niche, at least so far. She asked for a substance free dorm at first, but ultimately chose a “learning community” when she had to make a choice between the two.</p>
<p>Seems weird that I chose my college BECAUSE of the “party culture” (not like what’s described nowadays though) and My D is choosing in SPITE of it…</p>
<p>zzzzzzzz, you sound like a prick. Learn to be around people of all different beliefs and lifestyles, because whether you like to believe it or not, that is the real world.</p>
<p>in my personal opinion I have noticed the straight edge tend to be the close-minded people who think they are better than the rest of the people. I have no problem with people who choose not to drink, but it always seems they are looking down upon everyone else and telling them what they think is right. </p>
<p>I am also not really a partier- I was, but I have grown out of that stage in my life, but I am still completely against anyone belittling other people or thinking they are for some reason above people who choose to drink or whatever they might do.</p>
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<p>Nobody cares in college if you are “the lame kid”. You don’t spend 4 years with the same group of students.</p>
<p>Also, there is no “popular” in college.</p>
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<p>There’s also no “lame kid”</p>
<p>Look you guys, the only kind of people that are hated in college are the closed-minded, people will not like you if you are a partier and try to mock everyone who doesn’t drink, or if you are a non-partier and act like everyone who drinks is the devil. In all reality, you need to get out of this high school mindset and be nonchalant about it all, it is really not a big deal and nobody really thinks much of it whether you do it or not. </p>
<p>It seems the people who make a big deal of it, whether for it or against it look like the idiots in my opinon. Grow up.</p>
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<p>I know. That’s why I put it in quotes (I was quoting the other poster).</p>
<p>This thread is depressing lulz.</p>