Ok, so today is the day we turn in our project. Yesterday the guy who got drunk a while back was urging me to play test the game while I was working on a project. His nagging was laden with sarcasm, a demeanor he never displayed before until recently, and he called me “Bug Maker”. I asserted to my group that I had cared about the them and our project enough to carry their load throughout the past few weeks (after the alpha, I stopped being bossy and more caring). Then, the guy who was in charge of the social media for the project had this profanity laden tirade to say (copied from Discord with swear words censored):
“carrying who? u didn’t carry me u didn’t carry u said u wanted to do all the work so we let ur dumba## do all the work don’t f###ing complain after the fact because we had suggested different ways of going about the project that u shot down we all wanted u out of the group from the first day so don’t sit here & say u cared about the group we’re all just glad we turned the sh#t in and finished the project so none of us have to see ur dumba## again”
I admit I was bossy during the alpha phase of the project. I learned my lesson and tried to be less bossy for the remainder of the project. Yet here he says that I ignored the suggestions from the rest of the group. In fact, after the alpha I wanted feedback from the group but they did not communicate much feedback.
I am worried though. I was looking to use this professor for one of my recommendations for my USC transfer application. I am worried that my initial bossy behavior during the final project, even though I turned around afterward, might negatively impact any recommendations from him.
You’ll have to use your best judgement on who to ask for a recommendation. If you’ve done well in the class, then ask the professor and see how he responds.
I don’t think that telling your group members that you carried the load is really much of a turnaround. It sounds like they don’t think so either. Have you tried apologizing?
If your group has to rate each other then asking this professor for a recommendation may be risky. But you could ask and see how they respond.
@austinmshauri Update: I actually asked my professor for a recommendation at the end of the last class for the semester and he was surprisingly amicable about it. He is willing to write if I email him. I also had actually apologized to my group after the alpha for being bossy.
Anyway, as I was returning to my dorm after my student government meeting today, I came across the same guy who gave that rude message. I was not sure if it was him first, but as I was walking away, I heard someone yell “[My name] b#tch” or something along the lines of that behind me. I glanced around, and he was looking at me before entering a dining hall. When I told my roommate what had happened, he decided to go into the same building because I had told him about that guy before and he was fed up.
Also, because I had to carry the weight for this group, I could not find the time to do my internship and got terminated the day before. I plan on telling my professor about this guy tomorrow, but I am worried it would impact any recommendation I get from him.
