<p>So I found out who my roommate was yesterday, and I'm an international student and we're really opposites just as they come (in practically every sense of the word). Now, that isn't my problem--I'm used to people being different than me. The problem is that she doesn't BELIEVE I'm her roommate!! I found this stuff out from an e-services site my school offers, and she doesn't believe in checking hers and thinks I'm just making up the fact that we're roommates, and is going around TELLING everyone she thinks I'm making it up! (I don't even know who she is, I'd have to be demented to randomly contact her and make it up--I mean, honestly, what a stupid thing to make up). I'm really worried that this is going to cause all these rifts between us before we've even met, and I know I'm going to try to be very compromising in a roommate situation--it just seems like she really isn't. Any help, people? Thanks!</p>
<p>It seems like she's crazy. She doesn't believe in checking the site? Like she's opposed to contacting her room-mate before move in? If thats the case, let her have her way, why not. If you're afraid of double bringing things, be prepared to buy things after you arrive (which would probably have to be your plan anyway, since you're presumably flying in).</p>
<p>are you sure she wasn't just kidding around?</p>
<p>Look at the bright side, you'll have a great "I told you so" moment when you finally meet her.</p>
<p>Pretend to be somebody else when you finally meet her.</p>
<p>You could always talk to the person incharge of your dorm (like a house dean or whatever they call them at your school) and see if you can change rooms now. There might be openings in doubles if one roommate got off the waitlist at another school or something else. You'll be better off if you don't have a crazy roommate.</p>
<p>I'm kinda confused. How do you know that she is saying that stuff?</p>
<p>She sounds weird. I'd try talking to someone to see if you can switch.</p>
<p>I hate to say this, but she is probably in denial (that you are going to be her roommate), hence her believing that you're a hoax, and thus broadcasting that to everyone.</p>
<p>It sounds to me that she is a mentally deranged person, and as someone above said, will provide you with an excellent "I told you so!" opportunity upon move-in day.</p>
<p>Ya, I agree with OKgirl. How did u find out she is saying this stuff?
Uhm, maybe you should find some other girl to be your roomie and switch with her.</p>
<p>Avoid your potential roommate like she has the Andromeda Strain.</p>
<p>hahah that's such a weird story.
you'll probably just have to bide your time until school starts? and don't buy a microwave or a fridge just yet?</p>
<p>Thank you, everyone, for your responses.</p>
<p>OKgirl and Skygirl: I found out that she thinks I'm making stuff up because I created this group on facebook to, you know, find out who the rest of my suitemates were, and then a bunch of people off of that group wrote on her wall, asking her what dorm she was in, and she wrote back to ALL of them saying she didn't know yet and that she wasn't going to check e-services (and I do NOT know why) and that she thinks I'm some 'random person pretending to be her roommate'.</p>
<p>I don't know what to think. Like, seriously. </p>
<p>I doubt she was kidding, because truthfully, it's a stupid thing to be kidding about. And my college has some stupid policies about changing roommates--apparently they try really hard to get you to reconcile things, but we really don't have much to reconcile since we haven't exactly fought, she's just... I don't know. </p>
<p>I'm totally confused. Has anyone else had experiences where they just go to their room to sleep, and that's all? I really don't want to end up at such bitter terms before school's even started!</p>
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<p>Well, if it makes you feel any better, I think I saw a video once on the internet where two female roommates hated each other and never spoke to each other. However, one day they got in an argument and a pillow-fight in their pajamas quickly ensued; then in the heat of the moment, they started making out and taking off their--wait, what?</p>
<p>hahahaha .</p>
<p>I talked to one of my old high school classmates around this time last year. He was just assigned his roommate and said that his roommate seemed like a big partier (this kid doesn't go out or anything) and said that he saw the kid had on his facebook wall instructions about how to request a room change and other stuff like that. I don't know how it ended up because I didn't really keep in touch with the guy, but thats probably not too different from your situation.</p>
<p>Also, I have a friend who refused to see her room assignment for next year. She was even contacted by one of her roommates via facebook and just ignored it.</p>
<p>Easy: sure, that helps. Not.</p>
<p>Okay, now moving in with her is going to become even harder. I'm going to have to resist the urge to fling a pillow at her head at any point.</p>
<p>Sigh.</p>
<p>Venkat89: None of those sounds too encouraging. Ah, well, it's not like it's the end of the world. I'll just throw her out if she gets too annoying (in terms of her thinking I'm a figment of her imagination, anyway). Either that or I'll request a single. KNEW I SHOULD'VE!</p>
<p>Darn it.</p>
<p>Easy wins the thread.
+ I've might have seen it too :]</p>
<p>If she has a problem with the fact that you are international (or whatever other reason that she can't get over with), I think you should contact the residential life people, tell them your situation, and ask politely for a room change. It will make things easier for both of you.</p>
<p>It's rather blunt and rude, but you could print off the page that lists who your roommate is (make sure it lists your name/info as well), and mail her the page with a note that says Deal With It.</p>
<p>I would just assume that she doesn't want to deal with all of this yet. That's really what it seems like to me from what you've posted. Maybe a lot of her high school friends are going to be at the same school as each other next year and she wants to spend the summer focused on them before going off to something different.</p>
<p>But if it does turn out that she's weird, or has a sufficiently different sense of humor than you do that it's kind of hard to interact too much, or whatever, it's not the end of the world.</p>
<p>I had 3 different roommates in my time in the dorms. (Roommate #1 flunked out at Christmas, and Roommate #2 moved in for the second semester.) They were all reasonably nice people, they were all very different from me, and while Roommate #1 really did make pretty heroic efforts to befriend me for about a month (that's kind of balanced by the fact that Roommate #1 liked to have sex with overnight guests while I was 6 feet away from them), we didn't socialize.</p>
<p>I used my room for sleeping, for studying (some of the time; I preferred studying in the library or just sitting on benches or walls around the campus), and for things like reading and listening to music (with headphones) during my downtime. Roommate #1 liked to party, but didn't like to host anything in our room. Roommate #2 was paying for college out of pocket and working full time and was usually studing in there all evening every evening so I tried to go elsewhere and not be a distraction. Roommate #3 was focused on going places with friends.</p>
<p>We needed to be civil with one another, and we needed to be considerate because we weren't sleeping and studying at the same times, we needed to be somewhat forgiving of one another's personal quirks, and it helped that all of us went somewhere else for the majority of our social lives instead of trying to have social lives in the room. But it was a perfectly comfortable way to live; I don't think any of us felt deprived in the least.</p>
<p>If I were you I'd just let it go and let her make contact if she wants it later on. If she doesn't want contact, I'd just wait and meet her when we moved in, and then figure out where the relationship is going to go from there.</p>